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The Mother-Child Energy Connection

Be sure to check out Lisa’s book and energy work classes, both of which are based upon the specifics of the feminine energy body, and include techniques for working with the mother-child energy line for greater health and balance.

Usually when talking about subtle body and energetic teachings we are talking about our own subtle anatomy – our chakra (energy center) or meridian (energy line) mappings, and what physical body parts and psychological states they relate to. But within all of the energy healing and spiritual traditions that contain subtle body teachings, there are also teachings on our energetic connections to others – mappings of the ways we connect and share our energies.

Within these teachings, the mother-child energy line, or cord, holds a special place. When we talk about energy lines and cords, we aren’t simply talking about energy exchange. Everything is energy, so of course whenever we interact with someone there is an exchange. Every conversation, encounter, or even glance, involves an interaction of vibration – it is an energetic encounter, based on both parties’ thoughts and feelings. Our intuitions and ‘sixth senses’ stem from these exchanges.

Energy lines and cords go beyond energy exchange. They are direct energy lines that form between us and each of the individuals most prominent in our life. All together they create an energetic tapestry that mirrors our physical and emotional relationships. These lines may be heart-based (heart chakra) for those closest to us, or power-based (navel chakra) with those with whom we have complicated control issues, or in many cases both. They also may be based on shared energy or exchanges linked to almost any of the other chakras – for example, survival-based (first chakra), sex-based (second chakra), communication-based (throat chakra), vision-based (third eye), or spiritually-based (crown chakra.) Often they are a combination of many of these, reflecting the complex nature of our relationships themselves.

Among energy lines, the mother-child energy cord is unique because it is formed in utero and has a physical base. It mirrors the umbilical cord, in that it connects a mother’s sacral chakra with her child’s navel chakra. This means a mother’s creative and emotional energy (both linked to the second/sacral chakra) is directly linked to her child’s will, personal power, and mental constructs (all associated with the naval chakra.)

A big part of understanding the mother-child relationship (and for that matter, your own relationship with your mother!) is understanding this unique energy line. In the first few months of life, this energy cord mirrors the umbilical cord, in that a mother’s energy is literally helping to sustain her child. The first few months of a newborn’s life are often referred to as ‘the fourth trimester’, and although the physical umbilical cord and placenta are gone, energetically a mother is still nourishing her child, but with a special kind of energy. It can be very hard on both mother and child to be separated during this time, and it can feel overwhelming to a new mother. We expect to get some of our body and autonomy back after pregnancy once we have a child, but in fact, the energetic link is stronger than ever for a few months.

Over time this intensity diminishes, and the child becomes more energetically independent. The mother-child energy line becomes more of a line through which imprinting occurs, as the mother imprints mental constructs that help her child begin to order and process the world around her. This doesn’t in any way diminish the role that other individuals play in a baby’s development, including the father, other family members, and caretakers, but from an energetic perspective the way a mother does this through the mother-child energy cord is unique.  However, when a child loses or is separated from his birth mother, often other individuals (including adoptive parents) will form lines very similar to this mother-child bond to fill the gap.

A mother also continues to have a unique impact on her child’s health through this subtle body link. This can be exhausting, especially for a new mother that is struggling to maintain her own energy levels and health, especially if she is suffering from the baby blues, or worse, full-blown post-partum depression. Self-care is key. When travelling on an airplane we are told to put our own oxygen mask on first in an emergency, before helping our children, and this is good advice energetically too – making sure our own energetic needs are met will help us meet the needs of our children.

Over the course of childhood the mother-child energy cord lessens in intensity. A child becomes more independent energetically, just as she becomes more independent physically and psychologically. Letting go at the right pace on every level is really the art of parenting. If we try to tie our children down through this line, we inhibit their growth, and their own ability to take care of themselves. We may feel we are protecting them, but in fact we may be providing energetic functions that they will then never learn to provide for themselves.

On the other hand, if we let go too quickly or too fast, or don’t provide our children with the energetic connection they still need, they may not be able to feel grounded and stable. From an energetic perspective, this is often the case for children of addicts or other parents that are not able to fully care for them on a consistent basis – the child has difficulty developing lower chakra functions of stability and personal power. His energetic foundation is shaky or incomplete.

There are different theories on the phases of the mother-child energy line but the most obvious shifts occur around 6 months, 18 months, 3 years, 6 years, 12 years, and 18. While the intensity of the connection is shifting all the time, these ages mark the more dramatic shifts in independence. Often there are emotional upheavals around these times, if either the mother or child resists releasing the energy line. Either side can get ‘stuck’ developmentally if the line doesn’t continue to lessen, with the child taking on more of his own subtle body independence and the mother allowing this to occur.

So what is a mother to make of all of this technical energetic information? Obviously, much of it reflects what any mother can tell you intuitively about motherhood – that it often feels like your heart is walking around outside your body in the form of your children, that what happens to them happens to you too, that it is sometimes exhausting and draining, but that the bond and love is like no other.  The art to managing it all – like so much of womanhood – is balance.

Every moment of our lives we are involved in an energetic weave of our relationships, and our children are foremost amongst the threads. We will best be able to enjoy our part in this tapestry when we are able to strike the right balance between meeting our own energetic needs and those of our children. We also need to strike the right balance of independence and dependence, boundaries and sharing, at each point of the parenting journey. There are no hard and fast rules for how to do this – it is something we need to feel out for ourselves day by day, month by month, year by year.

One thing that is important to remember is that balancing these lines, and enforcing energetic boundaries or letting go, has nothing to do with closing our hearts. Our hearts can always be open in the ways that matter, even as our subtle body shifts or protects itself in the ways it needs for us to maintain our personal power and health, and for our children to come into their own. Parenting always involves sacrifice, including energetically, but it isn’t meant to be martyrdom, and in fact we are best able to give when we have a strong personal foundation from which to do so. We are best able to love when we are ourselves firmly planted in our connection to Source, the root energy of all, and can share that freely.

For more on this topic, check out Part II.

104 Comments leave one →
  1. December 19, 2013 5:40 am

    Lisa, you have a very beautiful way of writing and I enjoyed reading your perspective on this topic. The mother-child connection is always such a delicate balance, almost like a dance.

  2. July 10, 2014 2:45 am

    Thank you, this was really helpful and supportive.

  3. July 23, 2014 10:26 pm

    Thanks Ellen, I’m glad you found it helpful.

  4. September 1, 2015 7:29 pm

    I see that you are a mother of three, I would love some advice based on this concept of the mother-child energy connection! I have a 2.5 year old daughter. I have been her primary caregiver but I’m trying to cultivate more balance in my life right now and transition her to preschool in the fall. I can feel the strain of this energy shift right now and my formally fiercely independent, confident social child is having major meltdowns now when I hire a babysitter for a few hours. Today she clung to me in “terror” when the babysitter arrived and begged me not to go. Even though her Dad, who she ADORES and a family friend who she also loves were working on a project at the house for the day. I am desperate for some personal space and wanting to have some autonomy to give some of my energy to the pursuits I am called to after 2.5 years of having her be my entire world. I gave up my career (unexpectedly), which I loved, when she was born because it didn’t feel right to outsource her mothering and now I’m ready for the next phase of my life, to grow professionally again. I can feel the tug of our energetic cord and I want to be compassionate to her needs while still regaining some balance in my life. I would be forever grateful to any advice you have about this transition. PS she went to summer program for 5 weeks this summer and LOVED it! Didn’t bat an eye when I left her and cried when I came to pick her up to bring her home, and now this. So confusing.

  5. September 3, 2015 12:21 am

    Sarah, **sigh** I remember these days well, and it is very hard emotionally, because especially at this age you actually feel your child’s emotions as your own. From a developmental perspective, this is very common behavior for a 2 1/2 year old, as I’m sure you know. She wants to control her world and your presence in it, and this is her attempt. As long as you are hearing from the babysitter or school that after you leave she is fine, then it’s all good. I’m sure you’ve read the advice on how to say good-bye, assuring her you will be back etc., and simply being consistent with that is the most important thing.
    Ok, now on to the energetic part. Being consistent with how you say good-bye and establishing a regular routine is key. The common thought is that it takes about 6 weeks to establish a new routine for children this age, so having that in your mind as a target date may help you. Once you say good-bye and walk away, and are in your car (or whatever), send her loving thoughts, reiterate mentally that you will be back, and then really attempt to let it go until your time to return. If you are very distracted and can’t do that, and the sitter or teacher is willing to privately send you an update mid-way through your absence do that, as it’s better energetically if you can gain enough comfort with the situation that you can really relax the line. If it makes you feel better you can affirm the protective connection you have to her by visualizing a protective bubble emanating from your heart surrounding her before you go.
    What is really happening energetically over the course of the transition is that she will gain a new level of energetic and psychological independence and confidence in her ability to function in a new arena, without you around. That is good and natural. If she’s honestly not ready for that, in 6 weeks or so you’ll know it, but based on her reaction to the summer program, she completely is. As that transition occurs, you will gain a new level of independence too (which it sounds like you really need right now.) As I mentioned, most children go through a big shift into greater independence around 3, so this shift will roll right into that for you, and this time next year, I think you will be feeling much better about balancing everything (although the balancing act never completely goes away, and you never completely feel like you’ve got the balance down!)
    A cute book that talks about the mother-child connection for children is The Invisible String, if your daughter likes books this may help her:
    Otherwise, the big thing that can hold both of you back from making the shift is mother guilt. So this is something you may have to work on within yourself if it becomes a big hindrance, so that you can work through it. Sometimes we inflict mother-guilt on ourselves as a kind of self-punishment based in old patterns of unworthiness, or sometimes it is based in themes from our own childhood and relationship to our own mother, or sometimes it is peer or social pressure. Sometimes it’s all three! As I’m sure you’ve already encountered, there is a never ending stream of advice, situations, and cultural pressures that combine to inflict mother-guilt upon today’s mothers. In my view, it’s a big problem. Remember the most important thing you can give your child is love. So just do that when you are with her, do your best at everything else, and let the rest slide off your back. If you are feeling trapped or weighed down by motherhood, resentment builds up and gets in the way of feeling love, and that does no good for either of you, so it’s really important you honor your own needs.

  6. May 5, 2016 6:23 pm

    My mom died suddenly in her sleep when I was 5.5. She was a stay at home mom so I was basically with her 24/7. Dad was a busy professor.I have an older sister and brother-12 and 10 years older than me respectively. After she died and the rest of my childhood,I never felt any send if loss or shock or grief.I don’t know why. Since becoming and adult I cry whenever anything phases me.anything.-pressure,doubt,misunderstanding,conflict…I thought it was just a quirk.Even my husband is used to it now. Now at 35 i started trying to have a baby and my cycles instantly went out of whack. I went to see a reiki therapist and after talking she says it may have something to do with losing my mum. But I don’t see this. I don’t feel sadness or grief or loss thinking about her. I don’t cry when I hink about her. So I guess my question is can you explain how or if my mom dying at that age may have affected me and my energy.? And no my dad was more like an awesome “uncle ‘ than a Mr mum.any input would be awesome. Thankyou

  7. May 5, 2016 7:34 pm

    Hi Shola, thanks for your question. Things like that are very individual, so it’s hard to say how it might have impacted you based just on the general info. The second chakra is related to both our energy body and fertility though, so from a chakras perspective, what you describe is largely related to your second chakra. In general from an energetics perspective, no, the loss of a mother is not something I see as a common link to fertility issues. But it’s not to say there isn’t a link. Of course I assume you are working with a conventional doctor too, and going through the process of evaluating everything physically? What I see more often, in terms of a mind/body/energy link, is women with physical issues inhibiting their fertility who also are survivors of sexual abuse or assault. In that case, there are often energetic blocks in the first and second chakra, and working to clear those, along with addressing whatever physical issues are present, can together help to open up a woman’s fertility.

    However, often underlying emotional fears can trigger energetic blocks in the second chakra too, so that’s something to look at. Do you feel the fact that your mother died so young may have left you with any fears around becoming a mother and leaving your own children in the same way? Or do you think you might have any fears about your ability to mother, since you did not have one around? The decision to become pregnant often highlights so many of our fears over the kind of parent we will be. It often brings long buried childhood fears and insecurities to the surface as well. So there may be some emotional issues such as that that are impacting you, rather than repressed grief over the loss of your mother. If so, then working with that in therapy, through energy work, or whatever method is comfortable for you may help.

    I always recommend second/sacral chakra meditations also when a woman is trying to conceive, I have some links on my chakras page:
    You may also want to look at root and navel chakra meditations to create a sense of foundation and protection for your second chakra.
    Good luck to you-

  8. Rebecca permalink
    July 7, 2016 11:33 am

    Hi Lisa, I would love your advice. My 10 month old daughter is leaving me exhausted and drained. She seems to be so sensitive, she cries for hours during the day, despite having all her needs met, eg. Cuddles, sleep and feeds. If I put her down on the floor for a minute to get some chores done, she cries, if I sit with her, she cries. Don’t get me wrong, she is not like this all the time, but it seems compared to other babies she needs a lot of attention. I also have another child and he was quite a happy and settled baby in comparison so I know the difference. The point is, that it is leaving me absolutely wrecked and exhausted at the end of the day and I want my energy back so I can be a good mum and enjoy my life! I have always been very sensitive to energy so I know that her neediness is draining me. I work on my chakras religiously by meditating, especially on my third chakra, so my question is, is there anything I can do to prevent my batteries from running out? And to help my own daughter grow in a space of peace, love and nurturance? Thank you

  9. July 11, 2016 5:43 pm

    Hi Rebecca, I am so sorry to hear of your situation, I know it can be so tough, especially when you have another child. I am sure you have done this already, but it’s important to make sure there are no physical issues going on that may be contributing, i.e. any physical pain, which includes discomfort related to food allergies. A doctor can advise you how to track whether or not that may be a part of this. But assuming it’s not physical, it sounds like she is a highly sensitive child. If you haven’t already read up on this, I highly suggest goggling highly sensitive children, and reading some of the advice that you find. Others are covering this area much better than me, so I don’t want to spend too much time on it, but in general it is often a sign of being highly intuitive and empathic to energies. Because you are part of her protection field, it makes her even more anxious about separation from you. Finding ways to help her feel safe and secure will be key to her gradually outgrowing this, as will paying special attention to her environment. It will help once she is moving around more on her own too, as she will feel more in control. As she gets older, it will be important to help her establish good energetic boundaries, so she can truly own her sensitivity as a gift, not a curse.
    In the meantime, it is so important that you are taking care of yourself too. I think from a chakra perspective, root chakra energy may actually be more important than third chakra energy. Practice drawing energy up from the earth regularly throughout the day, and get into nature when possible. This will help your daughter too. You can also work on establishing an energetic boundary around both yourself and her – visualize a bubble around both of you even when you are physically apart, and see if that helps to soothe her – if she can start to tap into the energetic connection, she may be able to accept the physical separation more easily.

  10. Anonymous permalink
    July 25, 2016 3:48 am

    Thank you for this….

  11. Michelle arregoitia permalink
    October 3, 2016 10:59 am

    I came across this post by”accident” after doing a guided mediation of regaining personal power.
    I have a 22 year old son with Cerepral palsy and an intellectual disability who shows signs of bi polar. Since birth he displayed a disposition of irritation and anxiety to such a degree that it is difficult for him to feel comfortable in publi. We are at a crossroads now after finishing school at 21 last year. He waivers on going to an adult program and has difficult understanding, explaining and processing feelings. Meditation would be difficult for him as he has difficulty remaining focused.
    Today I meditated around my 3rd chakra and imagining a cord to him sending light and power.
    Any possibility that as he may not have the ability to meditate or understand these concepts, that the energy I send to him could have the same effect as if he would be able to do it for himself.
    Any advice would be appreciated.
    Thank you!

  12. October 8, 2016 9:59 pm

    Hi Michelle, absolutely the energy you send him can help him, especially as his mother. However, you really have to be careful to take care of yourself too, as I mention in this article:-)

  13. November 22, 2016 4:44 am

    Hello, I’m seeking guidance on how to feel more connected to my mother who passed away when I was 14. I am now nearly 18. My mother and I had a healthy relationship while she was alive, and we both loved each other very much. But since her death, I have felt very disconnected from her emotionally and spiritually, which has been painful. This disconnect has impacted my every day life through depression and physical illnesses. How can I try to strengthen the chord I have with her? Thank you.

  14. Mummyof3 permalink
    December 20, 2016 10:22 am

    Hi there, thank you so much for this blog. I found this after trying to make sense of an interesting but beautiful evening I had with my children.

    I have always dabbled in meditation and since having kids sending them love. But since falling pregnant and having no3 I hadn’t done anything for a while, until tonight.

    The eldest two came to bed for a cuddle and in my arms I tried to teach them meditation and send them love. I told them if they have any bad feelings come up, to let them come and let them go, and replace it with love and light.

    My daughter was concerned what would happen if they stuck to someone else. I told her to let it go to the universe. Then she was concerned about them being stuck to the stars. Not too sure about all this myself I told her the universe will know what to do with it. And to let love and my love in. Then she fell asleep, but I dont think she let those bad feelings go.

    My son said to stop as he was full of love and that in fact he was overflowing.

    I do not understand much of this (not even sure I’m doing it ‘right’?) even though I try to read about energy and learn more when I can. Where would be a child friendly place to find information easy for kids to understand, or easier for me to explain please?

  15. January 2, 2017 10:41 pm

    Hi Mummyof3, sorry I didn’t see this right away. Based on the experiences you describe, I think you know exactly what you are doing! In the sense that your intuition guided you to respond in a way that really brought your children to a beautiful place. That is not easy to do, so my number one piece of advice to you is to trust your intuition, your own spiritual connection, and your knowledge of your on children. Otherwise, I have not really found one resource that I would recommend to everyone. Most websites and books are geared around a particular religion or spiritual path, and so you can look at resources along those lines depending on your own beliefs. Books are a great resource and I do have several book lists on this blog. I also recently read a new book called Enlightened Parenting that has some good ideas, but is not just about meditation. My own approach with my own children is mostly based on modeling and responding to their inquires when they ask. Natural teachable moments such as what occurred with your own children arise all of the time, and that is when they are the most open to spiritual vibrations. Trying to ‘teach’ them in a more formal way spiritually often backfires, although it really depends on the child and family. My children see my own meditation practice and often ask about that and sometimes join in, and then we attend family retreats on occasion as well. Good luck with your growing family!

  16. L deLong permalink
    January 18, 2017 12:52 pm

    I have been having a difficult time getting past the feelings of loss during this particular time in my life. I was raised by a disconnected, although physically present, mom. My mom is now 86 and has been battling cancer over the last year. There have been moments where we didn’t think she would make it through the night. Despite the lack of emotional connection between us, I know that we are connected through this energy link between a mother and child that you wrote about above. I have felt her energy when I’m physically not with her. For example, she fell recently and couldn’t get up and I somehow heard her calling out to me on this energetic level. I went to her house and there she was on the floor. She told me that she was calling my name hoping I would feel her. I did loud and clear so much so that I dropped what I was doing in the garden, got in my car and immediately went to her. I have had no explanation for this, but in reading your words, what took place makes sense. I wish that I could be closer with my mom. I always have felt rather uncomfortable and shy when around her. We never fought or anything like that. Rebelling against a parent in my childhood home was not even a consideration. We just basically weren’t close and what it comes down to it, we don’t know each other. Amazingly, there is this link between us that is there despite not having been nurtured during our last 47 years together as mother and daughter. My own daughter is now 19 and my son is 16. We love each other deeply and are so very close and this is because the bond between us has been nurtured and appreciated. I have had to battle with my own insecurities and my own life experiences with my mom to make sure that my kids and I would have a true loving connection. I am thankful each and every day for what my kids have taught me about how to truly love. I’m far from perfect but each experience I have with them makes me feel closer to what I know is right.

  17. Miss M permalink
    January 25, 2017 10:20 pm

    I need help ♥️ Please hear me out. I’m in love, with a wonderful wonderful man, my mother doesn’t approve of him (she’s very powerful) she likes to sneak in comments here and there about him. She effects my subconscious. I know I need to cut the energetical chords because SHE IS NOT GOING TOO. How can I do that? I’ve tried talking to my inner child! What else can I do? Her comments affect our relationship. He can feel it and I get hurt by it. Even though I intellectually know I shouldn’t listen to her mean comments they affect me a lot. Please I’m in desperate need of help. How do I cut the energetical chords when my mother is refusing too?

  18. January 27, 2017 7:45 pm

    Hi Miss M, I’m sorry to hear of your struggles. You do not need your mother’s agreement in order to cut the energetic cords between you or to shift the way she impacts you. You cannot control how she treats you but you can control your reaction internally. However, that does require a lot of self-awareness, so that you can untangle the conditioned way the two of you have come to relate. If you feel this is a big problem for you, you may want to consider working with a therapist to help you through this work if that is an option. If not, then certainly do some cord cutting work. But depending on the situation, you may want to try other approaches, including talking to her on a deeper level about what her concerns and fears are. I can’t really provide specific advice through the information possible in a comment, so I encourage you to seek other resources. But in terms of your concern that your mother will not agree to cut the cord, I will say that you do not need her agreement to do so on your end. Many blessings to you as you work through this…- Lisa

  19. mommyof3 permalink
    January 28, 2017 3:22 am

    Hi mommymystic, thank you for taking the time to respond. I will do my best to trust my intuitiion more, thanks again! Happy New Year x

  20. Sadie permalink
    January 30, 2017 5:12 am

    Hi! I came across this while trying to research about energy between mother and child during pregnancy. I will be 34 weeks pregnant on Tuesday, and for the last week sometimes when my little girl makes bigger movements I feel what I can only describe as an endorphin rush. I feel a wave of warmth, and extreme contentment and happiness. It only lasts for 15 – 20 seconds but it’s really amazing honestly. At first I thought maybe something is wrong with me, but everything is fine when I go to the doctor. I started getting the feeling that I am exchanging energy with her, that I am picking up on her energy somehow. Also sometimes when she is making smaller but more active movements, at times I’ve noticed I get an uncomfortable feeling, like I can’t stop moving and slightly anxious. Have you ever experienced anything like this, or heard of it?

  21. February 1, 2017 12:59 am

    Hi Sadie, yes this is all very normal, and it’s both a physical and energetic process. On the energetic side, you are very linked right now, and she is more ‘present’ in your womb as it gets closer to birth, although not yet bonded to her body, that does not happen until the first breath. But the doorway between the spiritual/energetic planes and the physical world are open right now – in you. A women’s second chakra is a spiritual doorway, just as her body is a physical doorway for birth. So enjoy the feeling and trust in it and what you and your body can do. Blessings to you for the rest of your pregnancy and birth. – Lisa

  22. Alisa permalink
    March 27, 2017 10:42 pm

    Hi, I think I am inadvertently connected to my 24 year old son. I will text me a random picture right as he’s thinking of that same thing, we can be miles apart and both feel nausea at the same time, etc.

    WELL, I have anxiety issues. And I’m worried I may have given them to him. He didn’t even know that I was dealing with this, and now he describes feeling the same way that I do.

    Could be coincidence, or genetics, but considering the tie we have it is something I’m concerned about.

    I’d like to know how to sever our psychic tie, so that I don’t accidentally transfer my anxiety to him.

    Any help would be appreciated.

  23. March 27, 2017 10:45 pm

    Could someone please tell me how to break a psychic tie?

  24. March 27, 2017 10:46 pm

    I didn’t mean to post twice, I thought it didn’t accept my comment, sorry!

  25. March 31, 2017 3:55 pm

    Hi Alisa, it’s difficult to know for sure what’s going on without knowing the two of you, but I will comment on a few things and hopefully you will find it helpful. The first is that of course both genetics and parental emotional patterns play a role in how a child develops, so your son may have similar emotional patterns to you for both reasons. And as an adult, he will need to work through those as part of his own growth trajectory in life, and that is not something to feel bad about as a parent, because we all do our best, and the kind of self-awareness and personal work that these patterns require to release is part of what it means to be human. It’s clear you love your son, so that is the most important thing you have done for him.
    However, I realize that you aren’t simply talking about his psychological patterns as being similar to your own, but rather that he seems to be feeling the anxiety you are feeling even when he doesn’t have anything going on in his life that might trigger it. And it is of course entirely possible that he is picking up your emotional state right now through your mother-child energy connection. This is not a line that can be ‘cut’ however. What you can do is intend to ‘clear’ your line with him and not send this energy to him. However, the majority of the shift needs to occur on his end – he needs to intend not to pick this up from you, and close his end of the line, and his energy body off to this energy from you. This is hard though, because he no doubt loves you and wants to help you. The shift the two of you will need to make is how to love each other, and how to send each other love and support, without taking on each other’s current emotional state. In a way, this is the challenge of every relationship with people we love, and it is a lifelong process. So there isn’t a simple exercise I can give you to resolve it. However, it is mostly about intention, and one visualization that you can use to help affirm your intent is this: imagine a energy line between his navel and your womb, and imagine a bright gold light in the center that gradually spreads to clear and lighten the entire line. Then imagine a door on each end – one near him and one hear you – and imagine shutting those doors. Then imagine light from both of your hearts emanating towards each other – not as a line, just as a glow of light. This visual is a way of representing the shift I am talking about, one where you send love and support to each other, but do not share your emotions energetically.
    As for the other example you gave, of receiving a picture from him right as you were thinking of that – that is an intuitive link, and is normal between intuitive people that are deeply connected. It is not a problem unless it is bothering you. It is not the same as the anxiety being shared on the emotional line.
    Hope this helps, and I encourage you to explore meditation, counseling, or any other method you can to help you deal with your own anxiety too. Blessings –

  26. Alisa permalink
    April 2, 2017 11:07 am

    Thank you much for your input! This gives me a lot to think about.

  27. Danie permalink
    June 21, 2017 8:22 pm

    Thank you so much for your insight- I found it enlighting and calming. My son is almost 19 and will be leaving for a 2 yr job training program- i found out yesterday and began to experience an overwhelming panic unlike any I’ve ever experienced- I knew this day was coming but as soon as I got the date it all became so overwelminly real.I believe myself to be tuned in and aware of energetic connections and acknowledged the shifts and evolution of my son and I relationship. I had my son as a premie at the early age of 17 and the first 5 yrs we’re very traumatic and stressful- I have known my son to be my anchor -I have always been
    very involved and always thrive to give my son the best possible life despite the struggles of being a teen mom.The past 2 yrs have been bit of struggle as he seemed out his independence in negitive ways and I had to learn to give him his time and space and I found a lot of resistance and inner turmoil watching him struggle. Now I’m at this place of ending the norms of motherhood and the begining of the unknown of what’s in store for myself as well as having the best wishes for my son so he can experience what he must and grow into the man he’s meant to be. I personally feel like now this is almost as scary if not more when I gave birth to a 2 Ib infant without any plans or intentions. I know this all part of my indidividual path and I have done all I can to guide my son into his very own path. I will always offer unconditional love and intimate support but I know even though this change is terrifying for both of us- it’s neccecarry. I feel that my experience is hard to share w others as I believe the “mother” experience is unique and diverse for every woman- I feel such a deep energetic movement within at this time. I am now taking time to honor who he is and to allow things to be what they will be and to let go of the fear I’ve held onto for half my life since I’ve become a mom. This is also all occurring on the start of summer solstice . I am a huge processor and am being gentle with myself thru this. Would sincerely appreciate any advice or insight that would help us ease into the transition.

    Much gratitude

  28. June 22, 2017 12:48 am

    I am wondering what happens to this energy connection when one person dies
    Is the connection broken?

  29. June 23, 2017 1:25 am

    Hi 1in160blog,
    The specific energy connection I am talking about in this post does end yes, because it is a line in the subtle body connected to the physical body for developmental purposes. The subtle body has many levels, it is a bridge between the physical body, the karmic and psychological body, and the mind/spirit. This particular energy line is formed in utero, mirrors the umbilical cord, and is located on the part of the subtle body connected to the physical body, so it ends when one or the other physical bodies end.
    However, we of course all have many different levels, and if two beings have a karmic and/or spirit relationship beyond the mother/child relationship of this particular lifetime, then they will still be connected on some other plane or level. It is just not a ‘line’ connection like I am talking about here. I hope that is helpful information for you.

  30. June 23, 2017 1:29 am

    Hi Danie, thanks for sharing your motherhood story, and it sounds to me like you are navigating this shift well on your own. It’s not easy, but you seem to understand the need to let go and let your son make his own decisions (and possibly mistakes) on his own, so he can learn his own life lessons, as you have done. And you seem to also understand that now is a time to turn back into yourself and see what your next phase of life has to offer. These are the most important things. From an energetic perspective, if you like to work in that way, you could visualize the line between you and your son having a door mid-way through that you can open and close, and imagine that it is now closed most of the time, only to be opened/activated in ’emergencies’ such as health crises or other crises situations. You can also imagine sending light to your son from your heart, wishing him well on his life journey. You can feel into where in your body you specifically feel anxiety about him as well, and bring light to it for release. These are all the kinds of things I do with parents working on letting go, and that I use myself. Wishing you and your son much joy on your next phase- Lisa

  31. Katie Campbell permalink
    June 23, 2017 12:17 pm

    Hi there. I would love to connect as I’ve recently had some challenges with my little one. Do you offer phone consults? Or do you offer energy treatments or intuitive sessions for baby and mother?
    Thanks so much in advance.

  32. July 7, 2017 1:47 pm

    I love this!!! This has helped me a lot because I’m just starting to get into learning about chakras and have a newborn that sparked this question.

  33. July 7, 2017 4:56 pm

    Hi Katie, glad we were able to connect by email. Lisa

  34. July 7, 2017 4:58 pm

    Perpetual, wonderful, I’m glad it resonated. Lisa

  35. Anonymous permalink
    July 7, 2017 10:26 pm

    my mom drains my energy. makes me feel like i suck and cant do anything.

  36. July 10, 2017 3:48 pm

    Hi Anonymous, I’m sorry to hear this. Although there is an energy line between mothers and children, you can take control of your reaction to her words anyway. Seek your own power and inner resources, know who you are, and claim your life. Depending on the situation maybe at some point you and your mother will be able to discuss this pattern and you both can come to understand why she feels the need to act in this way. Wishing you luck – Lisa

  37. Taylor permalink
    August 4, 2017 6:00 am

    Hi thank you for the enlightening post. I’m feeling lost in this parenting thing. My son 22 month old son and I have run into some challenges the past 6 months. I somehow know it is energy related to me.He’s been regressing developmentally and emotionally. I know I’m his most beloved but he’s been acting extremely aggressive with me. Biting hitting ect. It seems like anything to cause pain or defy me specifically is his goal. When I come home from work he cries and bangs his head on the ground but I know he just wants a hug and to nurse. I have been working on my own spiritual connection and trying to get him involved. I bring him to kirtan,chant in the car with him, yoga, and try my own energy work on him. I’m feeling its his 1st chakra. I dont think he feels safe with me or maybe I’m gone too long at work I don’t know what to do. He is my heart and I know something is wrong and I’m trying my best but things just seem to be getting worse. It makes me so sad. Any encouraging words would be appreciated. Thank you for your time and dedication to intuitive gift.

  38. August 8, 2017 1:24 am

    Hi Taylor, I’m so sorry you are struggling. Of course at 22 months there are many changes developmentally as your son discovers and exercises his autonomy, and many of the behaviors you have described are not all that unusual in this phase. But I trust your instinct as a mother that something else is going on, and encourage you to seek parenting resources. I’m not sure I really can offer any useful specific energetic advice with just this information, but I can tell that you are an engaged, loving, aware mother, and that counts for a lot. Our children go through so many different phases as they grow, and as they leave babyhood more and more of what they experience apart from us is not in our control, although they will often take it out on us if they are having trouble processing it. Sometimes backlash against us is actually a sign we are their ‘safe space’. So perhaps it is not personal to you, but rather a sign he is processing other changes or events in his environment. In these cases, if we can offer an unconditional loving energy as they process what it means to be a part of this world, that counts for a lot in terms of getting them through it. Good luck – Lisa

  39. Taylor permalink
    August 25, 2017 8:10 pm

    Thank you Lisa. Your post back inspired a much needed cry/release of negative energy towards myself. I appreciate your loving response it is always great to be reminded that you are not a bad mother. Peace and Love,

  40. Rae permalink
    September 14, 2017 12:38 pm

    I loved reading your article, made so much sense to me as I am struggling with my son who is 2 years and 9 months. He is a very sociable boy and loves being around people but is very close to me. He often comes to kiss and cuddle me whilst he plays on his own at home or when we are on play dates.
    When he was 2.5 years I tried to settle him at nursery, on the first day he left me and played alone for 90 mins, thereafter he just cried throughout the session (1.5-2hrs per day, three times a week) he would sit on my lap and sob. He would also run back into the house in the morning. After 2 weeks the manager told me he was not ready emotionally.
    I am now settling him into a second nursery, this time I stay with him for the session to get him used to the staff and will then slowly disappear for 15 mins or so daily. I have done this 2-3 times and he really cries. I’m confused as to whether I am doing the right thing. He is deeply sensitive, loving child and the last thing I want to do is break him. I also do not want to hinder his growing independence.
    On another note he now also cries for a while when I leave him with his dad for a few hours.
    I would love your advice from a spiritual perspective whether I let him cry at nursery or wait until he is 3 (I will be working in the nursery when he turns 3 so he will always have me around). Thus far I have always listened to my intuition with him and not listening to others who tell me kids have to learn. My mindset for raising my son is gentle and loving with explanations of why we do things, I never raise my voice or shout at him.

  41. September 19, 2017 7:40 pm

    Hi Rae, this is so difficult to judge from the outside! It sounds like you know all the research and general advice – it all asserts that children around his age will adjust as long as you are consistent with your absences so he can grasp the routine and has a sense of knowing exactly when you will be gone and when you will be back. And that then once this adjustment is made, they will enjoy their social time with peers and other adults. However…not every kid is the same. And I would never ask a mother to override her own intuition. I also think other adults who are trained in child development and able to get to know him firsthand (as hopefully his preschool teachers are) are better suited to talk this through with you.
    In general I will say that crying is the way a child at this age expresses his emotions, and of course sadness or frustration at a loss of control are normal human emotions. So crying in and of itself will not break a child. Eventually he will learn to express his emotions through words, but he can’t do that yet, so this is his way. If you view it as simply an expression of a normal human emotion, it may become easier for you to handle. I wouldn’t think of it as a sign he is being ‘broken.’ But then again…that mother intuition thing, you have to trust what you feel he is expressing, as you know him best.
    If you do decide to give it more time, do strengthen that energetic connection, and consider talking to him about it – tell him there is a line between you and that he can always ‘reach out to you and feel you even when he can’t see you.’ And send him light and love while you are away, and reassurances that you will be back. If he is especially energetically sensitive this may really help.
    Good luck – it is a tough stage. I had two of my kids who went into preschool very easily, and one who did not. She cried every day for the first month, and it broke my heart. I am happy to report that in her case after that first month she grew to love her preschool, and she is now a very social and independent 11 year old. But at the time, I was torn every day. Much love- Lisa

  42. Tami A permalink
    September 20, 2017 6:41 am

    My 28 year old son contracted a flesh eating bacteria, went into a coma for 28 days and almost died. I felt a need to wash my energy over him and link us together. I visualized this and he survived after having 34% of his skin and deep muscle tissue removed surgically. I am trying to understand how I did this. How do I learn about this.
    The doctors told me every day he was not going to live and that I should let go. I feel I literally linked him to me and boosted his own energy. I didn’t do anything specific, I just called to him with my soul and pushed my energy into him.

  43. September 20, 2017 4:55 pm

    Hi Tami, I have heard many beautiful stories such as yours, and I don’t think it can be explained in any one way. It is an affirmation of the spiritual and healing powers we are all connected to, and also to the power of love. And some would say it was simply not your son’s time to go, or that he chose not to as well, perhaps in response to your ‘call’, or perhaps for his own reasons (or both.) I think the most valuable thing that can come out of it is a deeper relationship with spirit for both of you, and an opening to seeking that will continue for both your lifetimes. There are many books on energy healing and the power of prayer as well that you can read that may provide you with more ideas as to how this occurred, but which ones will resonate with you will depend on your own spiritual proclivities, so I’ll let you use your intuition to find the right ones. Thanks for sharing – Lisa

  44. Kate permalink
    October 6, 2017 9:33 am

    Thank you for this. recently I met my biological mother for the 2nd time and fathe for the 1st. I think I felt more numb and it wasn’t until I came home that I have random outbursts of crying and I can feel pressure with my heart and throat chakra. Is this because the energetic chord can be re attached with pain from the biological parents or is it more a healing/release of old feelings?
    Thank you

  45. October 7, 2017 12:45 am

    Hi Kate, I feel this is more about your feelings related to this, birth cords would not normally be linked in the heart or throat. And as an adult, those cords would be pretty weak at this point anyway. So there are many ways to work with this pain. Of course counseling of some type may be in order, or energetically you can work with a modality that will allow you to express how you are feeling in other ways besides talking (art, bodywork etc.) For now even just bringing healing light to both areas with self-compassion will help. I guess the big question for you is whether this was a release that needed to happen and now that it has you feel some sense of resolution, or whether this has opened wounds that had been repressed that now need to be processed and healed through a longer term approach.

  46. Clementina permalink
    October 29, 2017 6:45 pm

    Thank you.this was an amazing article. This gave me a perspective ive been trying to grasp for so long with my relationship with my son whose 17 months. My first child. The first year has been life changing..whirlwind of emotions. Sometimes hard to put into words. Your article made so much sense to me
    Thanks again

  47. shaziahatoon permalink
    November 10, 2017 10:48 pm

    Awesome. Thank you

  48. November 13, 2017 8:38 pm

    Hi Clementina, I’m glad it resonated (I’ve been out of town so just now catching up on comments.) Wishing you much joy and balance on your continued motherhood journey. Lisa

  49. December 7, 2017 5:25 am

    And I am speechless…. Love your blog and you to the Moon.

  50. December 14, 2017 7:57 pm

    Thank you Sajedo.

  51. Paola permalink
    December 15, 2017 6:13 am

    Thank you for this article because I really needed this today. THANK YOU !

  52. Cathy Walker permalink
    February 19, 2018 3:35 pm

    My daughter is extremely emotionally upset. She is crying and went to the hospital for a suspected heart attack. She says her chakras have gotten in the wrong place. Her heart one is transposed with her stomach one. Not in those words because I can barely get her to speak. She is acting catatonic , she has 2 sons and her husband wants to leave if she doesn’t snap out if this.

  53. Joan permalink
    February 26, 2018 9:35 am

    My infant was taken into foster care at six weeks of age and returned to my care at 10 months due to the actions of my vindictive narcissist ex husband. For much of the time, I was given only six hours a week of visitation. The entire year was a traumatic experience for me, but thankfully, my child’s foster mother was an excellent stand in and her needs were well met.

    I know I’ll never get that precious time back that I lost (she’s one now) but I’ve been trying hard to re-establish a deep connection with her. I’ve been playing healing sacral meditation music as she sleeps in bed with me at night for two months now. Do you have any tips to help strengthen our spiritual/emotional bond?

  54. March 10, 2018 2:15 am

    Hi Cathy, I’m so sorry I just saw this message, I am not sure why it did not show before. Chakras cannot move in to the wrong place, so I am not sure what you daughter was referring to. Hopefully she has gotten the medical attention that she needed. Of course energy work can sometimes also be useful, but in cases such as this good medical and mental health care are essential, and chakra work may be helpful as complementary care. Blessings to you and your family. Lisa

  55. March 10, 2018 2:19 am

    Hi Joan, just loving her will do it. It’s important to let go of any guilt or or anger you have about this time period, and let it be in the past at this point. Focus on your time together now. The line is not damaged by absence, and you were always in her life. The best thing you can do now is move forward with love. Blessings, Lisa

  56. Ms Rachael Mcnicol permalink
    March 14, 2018 7:42 am

    My youngest (7yrs) seems to have some connection with me. I was told by somebody, quite by chance that he spiritually ‘feels’ me and is the emotional sponge of our ‘family’. At the time, if I’m honest, I was somewhat sceptical because out of all my children (I have 4) he seems the most self-absorbed and my 3rd (9yr old) son has always been the ‘old head on young shoulders and very sensitive but I have noticed two incidents that have given me pause to think. I wonder if you can clear these up. I heard some horrible news in the early hours one time that made me sick to my stomach and he woke up feeling so ill in the stomach, we both had stomach ache that day and I know it wasn’t a stomach flu. Ever since he was an enfant he has inexplicably become restless or needed attention the ‘second’ I started to fall asleep which has seemed too spookily regular to class it as coincidental. I have struggled with insomnia for years and trust me when I say, nothing is worse for an insomniac finally dropping off to sleep and then your child deciding that that’s the second he needs to cry out. His older brother (9yrs) is very spiritual and I’ve taught him how to hear God and he told me after one meditation that he was told that his job will be to teach his younger brother how to hear God. So to clarify, my grandma taught me and I teach my 9yr old how I was taught to pray. I haven’t taught my youngest, although he is sometimes present, because he’s such a free spirit and doesn’t seem interested and most importantly I haven’t been told to teach him but it is my youngest and most rambunctious child who seems to be connected with me in some way? I would really appreciate some understanding on this, if you can help me understand more fully. Sorry if this is badly written, I’m typing on a phone.

  57. Ms Rachael Mcnicol permalink
    March 14, 2018 7:59 am

    Thinking on it some more, I realise that my youngest gets overloaded in crowds and needs breaks from playing in large groups.
    Most people say to me, ‘he doesn’t take anything seriously’ or ‘life for him is all about the party’ because you can’t get him to take anything seriously and he’s mostly such a happy child. Life for him is all about emotionally led life. I know wonder if he is more spiritual than I gave him credit for. I have such wonderful boys but they are soo different. Lol.

  58. March 14, 2018 10:39 pm

    Hi Rachael, thanks for your sharing, it’s always fascinating to read a mother’s take on her different children (I have 3 myself.) In terms of the topic of this blog post, the energy line between mothers and their children, that is basically ‘generic’ with each child. However, we may have different karmas and resonances with each child that determines the kind of energetic sharing that occurs across this line, and we may also form other types of emotional attachments/lines with each of our children. So there is this base energetic line, and then beyond that other energetic, emotional, and karmic connections that may be in play differently with each of our children. Then on top of that, our children each have different personalities, different natures, and we may resonate with each differently. In the case of your two boys, they both sound quite sensitive energetically, quite empathic, but it reflects differently in each of them. The younger one may need guidance on how to not take on the energy of others around him, so that he can feel his own energy field.
    Good luck, parenthood is such a fascinating and soulful journey. – Lisa

  59. MAY FitzGerald permalink
    March 26, 2018 1:56 pm

    Gosh I just passed a maternity hospital in my city. I saw a brand new mother. She was leaving with baba and hubbie but had met a chat. I felt like wrapping her up as she was so new (the mom) that I could practically see the magic of what had just happened falling away from her. She was in such a sacred state..soooo precious and vulnerable but she was trying to put on her normal hat and chat the friend they just met…this precious energy that happens between mother and child is the life force behind EVERYTHING…we need to value it more..I have a five and seven year old daughter. I’m tuning back into this energy. It’s there still. It’s more important than food to humans…food obviously important too.lik. your article is the first place I’ve read so clearly about this. Thank you xx

  60. Rachaelplus5 permalink
    March 27, 2018 8:05 pm

    Thank you for replying. Yes, I believe you’re right. When its my own children I’m so blinded. I shall work on his ability over these next years to switch off from other people’s feelings. It took me years to find out that I could switch empathic senses off and I’m so much happier now. Just zone out when I want to. You’ve made so much sense to me. Of course my youngest is empathic, why did I not see it! I’ve focused on number 3 because he’s can see and hear spiritually which is like me but number 4 being so emotionally led all the time. The lady is right he is a sponge that just needs to learn to switch off and understand boundaries. Thank you so much

  61. April 2, 2018 9:03 pm

    One of the reasons I came across this blog was researching the ways to unplug a cord from the mother-child line. I have a toxic relationship with my mother and after years of healing work from psychotherapy to energy to everything in the middle, I know after meeting a seasoned practitioner I need to have her help me unplug this cord. But i don’t want to disconnect it totally. I guess I’m curious how it works as I read there’s two lines. So, one line is toxic and the other is the life line you received at birth and carries positive memories and good things you received. I’m cool with that. The garbage, toxic junk, her mental illness, her anxiety, her constant beratement of me, etc. I can do without that. I want to clear it so my 9 month old daughter and 3 year old son are also freed for generations to come.

    Would love to hear your thoughts. Thanks for your healing work.

  62. April 3, 2018 10:30 pm

    Hi Beth, there are different models for working with this, so if you have found a practitioner that is working for you then I encourage you to continue working with him/her and I don’t want to confuse the issue. However, the model I use is that the ‘inheritance’ line you are talking about, the energetic or psychological inheritance we receive, not just from our family but in fact from our entire ancestry on both sides, is connected to the root chakra, not the sacral. The sacral is very specifically the mother-child ‘sustenance’ line. Then there are energy cords that can form in addition to that based on the relationship between a mother and child – codependencies. So we are really looking at 3 different kinds of energy attachments that can be in play – the mother/child sustenance line is really about increased independence over time, and in your case, it feels like the psychotherapy work you have done have helped you to get this line into a manageable place. Then there are energy cords that may have formed related to codependencies or other unhealthy emotional patterns between the two of you, and there may be work still to be done there. Then there is your energetic inheritance through the root chakra, which is not really a ‘line’. But it can be changed – you can turn ‘off’ the ‘inheritance’ of the energies and patterns you do not want to inherit from your mother. Then you can ‘replace’ them with what you want to root your foundation in. Part of it is really about consciously thinking about what you want the foundations of your psyche to be, what energies you want to be grounded in, and imagining your root chakra connected to those energies, as opposed to the energies you picked up by default from your mother. You probably have done quite a bit of this already through psychotherapy, without it being labelled energy work.
    Hope that helps a bit-

  63. April 3, 2018 10:34 pm

    Lovely, thank you May.

  64. terhi eveliina karkkainen permalink
    May 16, 2018 6:24 am

    over 30 years of loosing purpose, span, direction, relationships, center, in life where relationship to mothers does not allow me to be well, living, functioning, with its disputing spiritual descendings, to restore spiritual origin slowly during closer 10th year in healing spiritual. sent your www site link to mother, wishing for hers to be given adequate response , to her healing. In these cultures, the childs life is externally observeds and instead of giving it its needed nutrition to grow and develop, it is placed through this external viewing, to benefit others, from its needed origins needed actions and functions. mothers allows such and the culture and its system supports such – your own lifes purposes, span, you need to beg to begiven, despite of the reasons that have led to such. Body work heals ones own matters, yet when a matter is deeperly connected to another persons, can such matter be healed, in between mother and daughter, if is mother holding the leash with meanings of non healing for self and for childs? -om

  65. May 23, 2018 6:50 pm

    Hi Terhi, you are an autonomous being, and yes you can close down the cords and lines that are holding you back. But for energy work to ‘take’ you also need to work psychologically on really understanding the imprint your mother has left on you, and release this. You also need to look into ways you may be still waiting for approval or something else from your mother, rather than owning yourself as a whole being. Often on some level we are waiting for our mother to change, to finally give us what we think we need from her, rather than letting go of that and finding what we need within. For the dysfunctional aspects of the mother-child cord to be closed, you will need to work on this aspect of it. I hope that helps and good luck with your healing.- Lisa

  66. Mark d Mcsorley permalink
    May 28, 2018 11:01 am

    Can a unborn child be effected by it’s mother’s blocked energies?

    Can it cause birth abnormal cells.

  67. May 29, 2018 3:11 am

    Hi Mark, no I don’t think it’s helpful or relevant to think in those terms. Yes a mother’s energy can impact her unborn child, as can the energies of other people around her, but far more relevant to ‘abnormal cells’ (since you asked about that) is genetics and health and environmental factors. It’s important not to get too paranoid about a mother’s energy, as I feel it can easily become a ‘blame the mother’ scenario. The point of this article is more to help mothers understand the energetic connection they have to their children, but our children are still autonomous beings, physically and energetically, so we are not responsible for everything that happens to them.

  68. September 15, 2018 5:37 am

    I love your post and reading the comments.
    I recently started to get back into yoga and meditation,after having not done it for years but needed a break from pilates.While i was meditating at the end of the last session,i had an amazing experience.My mother passed away in march,so i am still processing thoughts and emotions surrounding that.But while we were focusing on our Manipura and inviting joy and love something hit me ,physically in my third chakra.If i was not lying down it would have knocked me over it was so powerful.I knew straight away it was my mother.I was so shocked i started to cry.Although i felt her for a couple of seconds,that was it.I am trying to understand exactly what it was.Was it my mother trying to connect to me? or was i releasing grief?
    Have you ever heard of this happening or could you shed some light on what i should be researching in order to find out .
    Thank you.Peace & Love.

  69. September 17, 2018 3:49 am

    HI Lala Aloha, thank you for sharing. I honestly do not know based on this exactly what happened, but I trust your feeling/sense that it was related to your mother, and since the energy line to our mother is linked to our navel chakra, this makes sense energetically. I think the most relevant thing is what you felt. It’s interesting you were focusing on inviting love and joy in this chakra right as this happened. In that sense, did it feel like you were releasing grief in order to let this in? Did you feel as if you completed another phase of your mourning and letting go? Sometimes we can’t really process or understand an experience like this in the moment, but looking back afterwards we can sense the shift that occurred. So my own advice would be to approach it this way – give it some time, and looking back on it later you may see the shift that occurred and understand it more clearly. Blessings – Lisa

  70. Oyu permalink
    October 1, 2018 1:00 pm

    Thank you so much! I’m a newmither of beautiful twin boys. Motherhood is truly new experience for me. I’m really thankful to the universe everyday. The thing is, when my lil boys got ill it makes me ill too. I want to protect my children spiritual way. Is there any chance I can heal them with my energy? (yes, I always trust in pharmacy) thank you.

  71. October 1, 2018 7:43 pm

    Hi Oyu, congratulations on your twin boys. Yes dealing with illness is very difficult with babies. Certainly our own energy, and this line I am talking about in this article, is part of how we can help to boost their immune system on the energetic level. However, the challenge for new mothers is that you are likely already maxed out yourself, so your own energy may be fatigued, making it difficult for you to really extend energy to them. And this is ok, it will get better with time, and their immune systems will build up. So for now, I urge you to really focus on your own self-care to the extent you are able to receive help from others in your life to do so. Keep yourself as rested as is realistic, and eat good foods etc. If you are able to do this, you have a better chance of using your own energy to help protect them and bolster their energy. Then a visual I like to use to help to generate healing energy from mother to child is this: Visualize a warm golden light in your womb. Spend some time (several breaths at least, and a few minutes is even better) to feel as if this light is building up from an infinite source within the center of your womb. Feel as if the more you relax, the more this light comes through. Then begin to imagine this beautiful golden light is emanating from your pelvis to your baby boys, and surrounding them with a protective light. You can sit with this visual for as long as you like. You can of course also imagine you are channeling this light directly into different parts of their bodies that may need it. Of course as you mentioned, this is not replacement for medical care, just a gentle way of using the energetic connection you already have to help bolster their own sense of protection. But as I mentioned, take care of yourself first!

  72. Lisa permalink
    October 9, 2018 10:18 pm

    My 28 year old daughter died suddenly on May 27th. I’m wondering why I
    don’t want to be hugged or touched since her death. I feel highly sensitive to energy.

  73. October 12, 2018 5:51 pm

    Hi Lisa, I’m so sorry for your loss, as a fellow mother my heart aches for you. I hope you are receiving all the support you need as you mourn. I can’t say for sure why you are feeling energetically sensitive, I would not necessarily tie it to the mother-child energy connection. But I will say that our sacral chakra is linked to our emotional body, and with the many strong emotions you have no doubt been feeling it would make sense that you would perhaps feel less boundaried, and be feeling more energetically sensitive. And it may be related to the mother-child line adjusting to the loss too, I just don’t have enough examples of your situation to have observed that before.
    In any case, I do feel you should honor this feeling, and not feel obligated to let anyone hug or touch you if you’re not ready. I know it can be hard to affirm this boundary when others feel this is the appropriate way to comfort you, but if it does not feel comforting to you, you have the right to maintain physical space. I often work with sexual trauma survivors on how to assert this, as often physical contact does not have the comforting feeling that others might expect it too. So honor yourself, and allow yourself time. Blessings, Lisa

  74. Lisa permalink
    October 12, 2018 5:54 pm

    Thank you for your thoughtful response.

  75. Leah permalink
    October 30, 2018 6:00 am

    Thank you so much! It was a wonderful read. I’ve always wondered about somethingand haven’t found too much info on it, maybe you could help me shine a light on things. I was born on my mom’s birthday, was a few weeks early, and we’ve always had a close relationship. Is there any significance with what you wrote and sharing a birthday with your mother?

  76. November 1, 2018 7:22 pm

    Hi Leah, not really in terms of the chakras, but if you consult astrology, there is. Your sun signs would be aligned, which can be a powerful connection, although it doesn’t necessarily mean many other planets in your charts would be connected. But interesting to look into for sure.

  77. Anna permalink
    November 5, 2018 8:43 pm

    Thanks so much for your article! It found me at the right time. I am 22 and currently going through the process of cutting the energetic umbilical cord with my mother, which is hard for both of us, but I can’t imagine how difficult it must be for her. I do believe that in the end we will both be better off. It is definitely time. I hope I can find a way to make it easier on her though. Would you have any advice on that?
    Blessings to you xx

  78. November 14, 2018 9:25 pm

    Hi Anna, sorry I didn’t see this sooner! I know it can be hard to make this shift, and your compassion around it is evident. To some extent letting go if hard for any parent and just something they (we!) have to go through. How much you can help your mother really depends on your relationship and the exact nature of her dependency on keeping the line active. Are you able to discuss with her why you need to shift the relationship? The energetic line clearing is of course just one aspect of it. If you are also able to discuss exactly what you need to change, even if it is hard, the clarity will help. It’s also worth contemplating for yourself why you think this line has not lessened naturally on its own at this point. Is your mother living through you? Is she over-protective, and if so, does she have trauma in her own background that is fueling this? Does she have a full life? Do you have fears that have kept you holding on? Contemplating these things may help you gain clarity around what needs to shift for each of you in order to redefine your relationship. Good luck to you- Lisa

  79. Terri hoff permalink
    February 7, 2019 2:08 am

    Interesting read! This last year I’ve embarked on a spiritual enlightenment/awakening journey. For me this has meant diving into my past and healing a lot of karmic energy. One very important one being the difficult relationship I have with my mother. We didn’t speak for almost 25 years, from the time I was 18 until this year making me 43 now. She reached out to me due to poor health and we have reconnected. I’m finding a link between physical alignments now. My knee is hurt repeatedly and she is have trouble with her kidneys. Chinese medicine links the knee to the kidneys and kidneys relate to the emotion of fear of letting go. Have you ever done any research on this?

  80. February 8, 2019 4:47 pm

    Hi Terri, I have not specifically researched this kidney/knee link, and am not an expert in Chinese medicine, but I am not surprised by this, and have seen many other cases of mothers and children having similar or seemingly linked physical issues. And in general I find there is always value in exploring the mind-body link, and treating both when seeking to heal. So working with emotional and energetic healing modalities around the fear of letting go in addition to both of you pursuing medical treatment can only benefit you both. Good luck and thanks for sharing – Lisa

  81. March 15, 2019 9:45 am

    Hi, I came across your post whilst looking up the mother-child energy link. I am going through hell at the moment – fiance in icu after major op, in a hospital 4 hours away and I have to be home to look after my twin toddlers. My grandfather of 90 is in hospital. My abusive ex and bio dad of my twins has summoned me to court after not seeing the kids or paying for over 6 months. My girls are on chronic asthma meds, not long after I was out back on mine. And over the last three weeks have struggled to get rid of a chest infection which seems to keep coming back! I had bronchitis but mine cleared. A friend of mine suggested I look at the energetic link and that I might be “causing” their chest infections to linger via energy transference. I don’t know much about it but maybe you have some insight? My girls are 2 years old.

  82. March 15, 2019 11:40 pm

    Hi Lauren, I am so sorry to hear of all you are dealing with right now. It is hard to say from afar, but in general the mother-child line I am talking about does not carry illness in this way or transfer energy that causes it. With all you are dealing with it feels much more likely that you all are worn out and stressed, both of which lowers immune function. Getting as much support and rest as possible is the most important thing, as well as for your children. Wishing you blessings and healing-

  83. Anonymous permalink
    October 2, 2019 2:43 pm

    I have been loking round to find some information about mother-child energy bonds. Ever since I graduated from college, I have been looking for a job and was not quite successful. Recently an astrologer told my mother that my mother’s energy could have derailed me career-wise, and that could be the reason of me not being able to be independant financially. Is this possilble, if so what can be done to make things right ?

  84. October 8, 2019 3:52 am

    Hi Anonymous, without knowing exactly what the astrologer saw, I will say that there are levels of connection and imprinting between our mothers and ourselves – psychological ties, conditioning, energetic ‘contracts’ or unconscious ‘agreements’, and more. Some things to look at are what ideas about your capacity for success (good or bad) did you pick up from your mother? Are there familial insecurities or poverty patterns you may unconsciously be adopting? Are you dependent upon her or her upon you in some way that could be holding you back from moving forward with your life? These are the psychological ways that energetic/emotional patterns play out. But you can free yourself from them by working through them. Both energy work and/or therapy/counseling can be helpful depending on what your preferences are. Self-awareness is power, so that is always the start. Of course it’s also easy to get distracted by these kinds of theories when the real issue might be more pragmatic, so be sure you are also getting more mundane help on your resume, training, job skills and presentation etc., in case those are part of the issue too. Good luck. Lisa

  85. TransformationGoddess permalink
    November 10, 2019 2:57 pm

    Just what I needed to read before a cord cutting ceremony with my beloved daughter on the upcoming Full Moon. Thank you.

  86. November 11, 2019 12:14 am

    TransformationGoddess – wishing you many blessings and a peaceful transition. Lisa

  87. Jennifer K Hillard permalink
    March 22, 2020 4:51 am

    Ok I have a question my son was with me primarily until he was 2 years old then moved in with grandmother then his father I had very limited time with him until he was 6 then no contact until he was 17 then very scarce time with him until he was 19 at 19 he was killed I felt it I screamed that something was wrong someone was hurting my son then got extremely tired and fell asleep I got the call the next day in between times I could feel when certain things werent ok with him and he seemed to know things with me and since he was killed there have been some strang things like knowing what he wants from me or like he will come to me in some instances can you give me any insight

  88. March 22, 2020 8:16 pm

    Hi Jennifer, I’m so sorry for your loss. It is not uncommon for a parent and child to have an intuitive connection such as this. During his lifetime, any emotions you felt that may have been his may have been coming across this mother-child energy line that I am talking about. But this particular line dissolves when a parent or child passes, as it is part of the energy body that is linked into our physical body, so it dissolves with death. However, you may still have a medium/spirit connection to your son. From a chakra perspective that is linked to the upper chakras. You can consult a medium to help you with more distinct contact if you like and feel it is needed. However, ultimately the goal is to come to some closure for both you and him so that he can move on, and you can live your life. So I wish you well in that process, and in your grief. Xo Lisa

  89. Jacki permalink
    June 25, 2020 1:05 pm

    Hi my son is 15 and sees energy cords he describes them as like a large vein that is connected to him and some people he comes into contact with , he did a group meditation at school and he said he seen everyone’s cords connected to him but one girls was black and draining and she burst out crying and left the group he said it was a sad dark energy coming from her , recently he has been depressed and suicidal which has had a very bad effect on me as any mother , but I got so overwhelmed by it all and felt I was having a nervous breakdown and was talking about it to my sister on the phone as my son was online with friends with headphones in the downstairs room so I was able to express how it was affecting me and my son came running up the stairs and said mum what’s wrong your chord has attached to me and I feel how overwhelmed and sad you are he said there was colours of red and blue but then he said there was a Strong colour he has no words for as it’s not even on the colour chart that was leading from his stomach up the stairs into my room that was so intense. I am an empath and Scence people’s energy but I don’t see cords , I’m wondering if I should take him to someone to cut our cord as I’m worried if It’s me effecting him or if he effecting me but currently we are both depressed and it’s not good.

  90. Haimanti Sarkar permalink
    July 7, 2020 12:05 am

    I am facing worse problem with my son who is going through a adolescent period.he is going to addict with weed.plshelp

  91. July 9, 2020 9:01 pm

    Hi Jacki, I’m sorry I did not see this earlier. I hope you were able to find the help you need. I suggest seeking mental health counseling if you can for both of your depression. I’m not sure if you are sheltering in place right now or not, but the isolation and anxiety has impacted many people and it’s important to seek help. Depending on where you are located there may be free resources available.
    As for energy work, yes there are people who specialize in cords. However, I would not consider the mother-child energy line a cord, and it isn’t something I would cut. Both you and your son can practice ‘closing’ the cord by visualizing a door on your end – in your case at your pelvis even with your womb and in his case at his navel (the mother-child energy line mirrors the umbilical cord) – and imagining this door closing. This may help you recover your own energetic independence. At his age, it is important for both of you to start closing this line. More information on this is in Chakra Empowerment for Women, but you may also work with someone on this professionally. Wishing you much healing and support – Lisa

  92. July 9, 2020 9:03 pm

    Hi Haimanti, this time has been very trying for many of us, and adolescents in particular have difficulty dealing with isolation. I urge you to seek substance abuse counseling to get some advice on how best to help him. I hope you can find the help you need – Lisa

  93. Julia permalink
    July 13, 2020 9:43 am

    Thank you for your work! I find your page very helpful. I have been researching for a while about energy between mother and child and I haven’t found helpful information until I stumbled on your page. In my case I have an almost 7 years girl and a 19 months boy. I have always feel very energetically connected with my daughter, specially when she’s been sick and my link with her helps her to heal. What happens is that since my baby was born and many other profesional responsibilities added on, I feel like my emotional or energetic link with her is very weak. She has been handling the new baby so well and not feeling jealous or anything like that. She loves him and I’m fact she turned into a super loving and mature girl. But I feel that on my side I have rejected her to attend all my other responsibilities and this has caused us to loose so much connection. Sometimes I talk to her and feels like a normal conversation with a person, not that magic or beautiful energy link between mother-daughter we had before and that I can’t explain. I believe this may be due to my energy imbalances since I Have been dealing with much stress in my professional side. And such actions have impacted the way she’s dealing with this. I think she protected herself by getting very mature and centered and not needing anything from me, spiritually talking. I definitely don’t want this. I want to share and nurture a beautiful relationship with her. As for the baby, I see the energetic line you describe is healthy. Any words, advice or wisdom about my situation will be greatly appreciated.

  94. July 14, 2020 4:21 am

    Hi Julia, to some extent the shifts you are describing are part of a child growing up and gaining more emotional and energetic independence, and don’t sound like a problem at all. A strong mother-daughter relationship will look different at different ages. 6/7 is a big age in terms of gaining independence and that she seems to have shifted into that so gracefully is a credit to your parenting. Other big shifts occur at the onset of the teen years (12/13) and then at adulthood (18/19.) As mothers we often are challenged by these shifts and with all the conditioning around trying to be the ‘perfect mother’ this will sometimes reflect as us interpreting these shifts as a problem on our end because our children need us less. But needing us less is exactly what’s supposed to happen. I feel your daughter will turn to you when she needs you, that the bond is strong. You can try to spend some extra time with her to solidify that, but it really doesn’t sound like there is any energetic work that needs to occur. It sounds like she was ready for the changes in your own life.

  95. Yami permalink
    August 3, 2020 8:28 pm

    What about toxic mother-child relationships, how does that affect the mother-child energy line? Would severing ( cord-cutting ritual) that mother’s child energy line be helpful in helping a child heal and their toxic mother or would it be more damaging to the child?

  96. September 16, 2020 12:26 am

    Hi Yami, sorry I didn’t see this earlier. In general I would do cord-clearing instead of cord-cutting in this case, to shield the child from the negative aspects of the mother, but if there are any positive, allow those through. Then of course building supportive energy lines with others in the child’s life. That’s a simplistic answer, because there’s a lot that goes into it, and over time the key is helping that child not internalize their mother’s issues as their own, or as a reflection of their own worthiness, and there is often need for conscious energy work around that. Thanks for your question.

  97. Lindsay permalink
    November 17, 2020 3:32 pm

    Hi I just came across your Women’s Subtle Body healing ebook on Kindle and followed the link inside for the mp3s – I want to thank you for all the time and effort you put into all these resources….

    I hate to ask your advice for this but I am struggling deeply with chronic fatigue… It’s nearly impossible to work the part time job I have. I have struggled with this for over 10 years and it’s progressively worsening (since I’m not sure how to help heal it!)… I have spent SOO MUCH money on all kinds of supplements, books by trying to learn new ways of healing, medications, etc… The doctor I have now won’t do anything but keep writing the prescription that I was taking prior to going to his office. There is absolutely no concern for trying to understand or determine the root cause, so there’s no attempt at even trying to heal it. I can only manage it through stimulant medications which I’d prefer NOT to be taking, but it’s the only way to live half a life. I’m still expected to pay bills like everyone else… Where does someone go when all the people they’ve turned to for help, aren’t being helpful…? This is actually what initially inspired my journey into the self-help, self-healing, spirituality, energetic anatomy side of things. For that, I’m grateful – but the truth still remains that I need help… And I feel like I’m losing my patience. If anyone has any advise, I’d be eternally grateful for your input. Thank you so much! I would also love to hear if anyone else is struggling with this issue…. Maybe we can be of support to one another.

  98. November 24, 2020 8:33 pm

    Hi Lindsay, I’m so sorry I just now saw your message, I don’t blog as much as I used to. Unfortunately, your story is not an uncommon one, especially for those who have experienced trauma, which I am assuming you have or you would not have done the pdf (and I’m glad you found that helpful.) Our body and energy body holds trauma in a variety of ways. Chronic fatigue is difficult to heal, as you’ve experienced, but it CAN happen. In my experience, a long term case as yours usually responds best to a combination of modalities, including therapy for any underlying trauma. A combination of allopathic medicine and supplements to help manage the symptoms in the immediate, combined with therapy and energy work directly for trauma will yield results. But I know this is maybe small comfort to you at this moment, when you have already been dealing with this for so long. Have you already engaged in therapy for your trauma and/or ongoing energy work with with a healer? Ultimately the energy body needs to be rewritten, especially to address root chakra issues, linked to the adrenals, and boundaries, linked throughout the energy body. More individual patterns may also be present, depressing both the physical and energy body. But without some psychologically-based therapy too, to help deal with the underlying trauma, the treatments often won’t ‘take’. If you like, feel free to email me directly with more specific info on what you’ve tried and I can see what might be helpful. Blessings to you in any case. Lisa

  99. LillyHopper permalink
    March 29, 2022 8:06 pm

    I’ve recently been to my energy healer who got incredibly over excited and told me I was going to be pregnant in the next two weeks. As much as I would like children it is not the right time for me and I found it very disconcerting (for one that they did not pick up that I was not reciprocating this news in the way they were).
    My energy healer has always told me they are not a psychic, but asked in the session if I wanted children, to which I replied “I don’t not want them” and explained that my uncertainty is not straight forward. They then proceeded to tell me that if I was not already pregnant I would be in the next 2 weeks and there was nothing I could do to stop it even if I used contraception or even if myself and/or my husband already had our tubes tied (she didn’t mention abstaining). They said that they felt the energy of a small soul attached to me and that it would be my child, there is nothing I could do to stop the pregnancy other than pray that the soul is given to something else. They suggested not to get a termination. They even likened it to the nativity. They referred to my womb as being sparkly with energy ready to hold the baby.
    For various reasons this is not something myself and my husband want currently due to various reasons that I don’t wish to disclose on a forum. This has scared me and admittedly I feel a bit abused emotionally and in terms of my trust of my healer as I felt they were fishing for something to latch onto and this seemed something juicy to offer me, but it back fired. I also feel my faith has been manipulated and I’m being asked to pray for something directly which I prefer not to do. I am also aware they didn’t seal my energy off as they have previously done when completed healing.
    Anyway, my reason for posting is there is very little on the Internet about what they have said to me and I wondered if a) it is possible to have felt what they have, b) is it likely to be as imminent as they’ve suggested and c) is there really nothing I can do to stop it from happening other than pray?
    Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance.

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