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The Mother-Child Energy Connection

Usually when talking about subtle body and energetic teachings we are talking about our own subtle anatomy – our chakra (energy center) or meridian (energy line) mappings, and what physical body parts and psychological states they relate to. But within all of the energy healing and spiritual traditions that contain subtle body teachings, there are also teachings on our energetic connections to others – mappings of the ways we connect and share our energies.

Within these teachings, the mother-child energy line, or cord, holds a special place. When we talk about energy lines and cords, we aren’t simply talking about energy exchange. Everything is energy, so of course whenever we interact with someone there is an exchange. Every conversation, encounter, or even glance, involves an interaction of vibration – it is an energetic encounter, based on both parties’ thoughts and feelings. Our intuitions and ‘sixth senses’ stem from these exchanges.

Energy lines and cords go beyond energy exchange. They are direct energy lines that form between us and each of the individuals most prominent in our life. All together they create an energetic tapestry that mirrors our physical and emotional relationships. These lines may be heart-based (heart chakra) for those closest to us, or power-based (navel chakra) with those with whom we have complicated control issues, or in many cases both. They also may be based on shared energy or exchanges linked to almost any of the other chakras – for example, survival-based (first chakra), sex-based (second chakra), communication-based (throat chakra), vision-based (third eye), or spiritually-based (crown chakra.) Often they are a combination of many of these, reflecting the complex nature of our relationships themselves.

Among energy lines, the mother-child energy cord is unique because it is formed in utero and has a physical base. It mirrors the umbilical cord, in that it connects a mother’s sacral chakra with her child’s navel chakra. This means a mother’s creative and emotional energy (both linked to the second/sacral chakra) is directly linked to her child’s will, personal power, and mental constructs (all associated with the naval chakra.)

A big part of understanding the mother-child relationship (and for that matter, your own relationship with your mother!) is understanding this unique energy line. In the first few months of life, this energy cord mirrors the umbilical cord, in that a mother’s energy is literally helping to sustain her child. The first few months of a newborn’s life are often referred to as ‘the fourth trimester’, and although the physical umbilical cord and placenta are gone, energetically a mother is still nourishing her child, but with a special kind of energy. It can be very hard on both mother and child to be separated during this time, and it can feel overwhelming to a new mother. We expect to get some of our body and autonomy back after pregnancy once we have a child, but in fact, the energetic link is stronger than ever for a few months.

Over time this intensity diminishes, and the child becomes more energetically independent. The mother-child energy line becomes more of a line through which imprinting occurs, as the mother imprints mental constructs that help her child begin to order and process the world around her. This doesn’t in any way diminish the role that other individuals play in a baby’s development, including the father, other family members, and caretakers, but from an energetic perspective the way a mother does this through the mother-child energy cord is unique.  However, when a child loses or is separated from his birth mother, often other individuals (including adoptive parents) will form lines very similar to this mother-child bond to fill the gap.

A mother also continues to have a unique impact on her child’s health through this subtle body link. This can be exhausting, especially for a new mother that is struggling to maintain her own energy levels and health, especially if she is suffering from the baby blues, or worse, full-blown post-partum depression. Self-care is key. When travelling on an airplane we are told to put our own oxygen mask on first in an emergency, before helping our children, and this is good advice energetically too – making sure our own energetic needs are met will help us meet the needs of our children.

Over the course of childhood the mother-child energy cord lessens in intensity. A child becomes more independent energetically, just as she becomes more independent physically and psychologically. Letting go at the right pace on every level is really the art of parenting. If we try to tie our children down through this line, we inhibit their growth, and their own ability to take care of themselves. We may feel we are protecting them, but in fact we may be providing energetic functions that they will then never learn to provide for themselves.

On the other hand, if we let go too quickly or too fast, or don’t provide our children with the energetic connection they still need, they may not be able to feel grounded and stable. From an energetic perspective, this is often the case for children of addicts or other parents that are not able to fully care for them on a consistent basis – the child has difficulty developing lower chakra functions of stability and personal power. His energetic foundation is shaky or incomplete.

There are different theories on the phases of the mother-child energy line but the most obvious shifts occur around 6 months, 18 months, 3 years, 6 years, 12 years, and 18. While the intensity of the connection is shifting all the time, these ages mark the more dramatic shifts in independence. Often there are emotional upheavals around these times, if either the mother or child resists releasing the energy line. Either side can get ‘stuck’ developmentally if the line doesn’t continue to lessen, with the child taking on more of his own subtle body independence and the mother allowing this to occur.

So what is a mother to make of all of this technical energetic information? Obviously, much of it reflects what any mother can tell you intuitively about motherhood – that it often feels like your heart is walking around outside your body in the form of your children, that what happens to them happens to you too, that it is sometimes exhausting and draining, but that the bond and love is like no other.  The art to managing it all – like so much of womanhood – is balance.

Every moment of our lives we are involved in an energetic weave of our relationships, and our children are foremost amongst the threads. We will best be able to enjoy our part in this tapestry when we are able to strike the right balance between meeting our own energetic needs and those of our children. We also need to strike the right balance of independence and dependence, boundaries and sharing, at each point of the parenting journey. There are no hard and fast rules for how to do this – it is something we need to feel out for ourselves day by day, month by month, year by year.

One thing that is important to remember is that balancing these lines, and enforcing energetic boundaries or letting go, has nothing to do with closing our hearts. Our hearts can always be open in the ways that matter, even as our subtle body shifts or protects itself in the ways it needs for us to maintain our personal power and health, and for our children to come into their own. Parenting always involves sacrifice, including energetically, but it isn’t meant to be martyrdom, and in fact we are best able to give when we have a strong personal foundation from which to do so. We are best able to love when we are ourselves firmly planted in our connection to Source, the root energy of all, and can share that freely.

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  1. December 19, 2013 5:40 am

    Lisa, you have a very beautiful way of writing and I enjoyed reading your perspective on this topic. The mother-child connection is always such a delicate balance, almost like a dance.

  2. July 10, 2014 2:45 am

    Thank you, this was really helpful and supportive.

  3. July 23, 2014 10:26 pm

    Thanks Ellen, I’m glad you found it helpful.

  4. September 1, 2015 7:29 pm

    I see that you are a mother of three, I would love some advice based on this concept of the mother-child energy connection! I have a 2.5 year old daughter. I have been her primary caregiver but I’m trying to cultivate more balance in my life right now and transition her to preschool in the fall. I can feel the strain of this energy shift right now and my formally fiercely independent, confident social child is having major meltdowns now when I hire a babysitter for a few hours. Today she clung to me in “terror” when the babysitter arrived and begged me not to go. Even though her Dad, who she ADORES and a family friend who she also loves were working on a project at the house for the day. I am desperate for some personal space and wanting to have some autonomy to give some of my energy to the pursuits I am called to after 2.5 years of having her be my entire world. I gave up my career (unexpectedly), which I loved, when she was born because it didn’t feel right to outsource her mothering and now I’m ready for the next phase of my life, to grow professionally again. I can feel the tug of our energetic cord and I want to be compassionate to her needs while still regaining some balance in my life. I would be forever grateful to any advice you have about this transition. PS she went to summer program for 5 weeks this summer and LOVED it! Didn’t bat an eye when I left her and cried when I came to pick her up to bring her home, and now this. So confusing.

  5. September 3, 2015 12:21 am

    Sarah, **sigh** I remember these days well, and it is very hard emotionally, because especially at this age you actually feel your child’s emotions as your own. From a developmental perspective, this is very common behavior for a 2 1/2 year old, as I’m sure you know. She wants to control her world and your presence in it, and this is her attempt. As long as you are hearing from the babysitter or school that after you leave she is fine, then it’s all good. I’m sure you’ve read the advice on how to say good-bye, assuring her you will be back etc., and simply being consistent with that is the most important thing.
    Ok, now on to the energetic part. Being consistent with how you say good-bye and establishing a regular routine is key. The common thought is that it takes about 6 weeks to establish a new routine for children this age, so having that in your mind as a target date may help you. Once you say good-bye and walk away, and are in your car (or whatever), send her loving thoughts, reiterate mentally that you will be back, and then really attempt to let it go until your time to return. If you are very distracted and can’t do that, and the sitter or teacher is willing to privately send you an update mid-way through your absence do that, as it’s better energetically if you can gain enough comfort with the situation that you can really relax the line. If it makes you feel better you can affirm the protective connection you have to her by visualizing a protective bubble emanating from your heart surrounding her before you go.
    What is really happening energetically over the course of the transition is that she will gain a new level of energetic and psychological independence and confidence in her ability to function in a new arena, without you around. That is good and natural. If she’s honestly not ready for that, in 6 weeks or so you’ll know it, but based on her reaction to the summer program, she completely is. As that transition occurs, you will gain a new level of independence too (which it sounds like you really need right now.) As I mentioned, most children go through a big shift into greater independence around 3, so this shift will roll right into that for you, and this time next year, I think you will be feeling much better about balancing everything (although the balancing act never completely goes away, and you never completely feel like you’ve got the balance down!)
    A cute book that talks about the mother-child connection for children is The Invisible String, if your daughter likes books this may help her:
    http://www.amazon.com/Invisible-String-Patrice-Karst-ebook/dp/B004ZIUCF6/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1441239197&sr=1-1&keywords=the+string
    Otherwise, the big thing that can hold both of you back from making the shift is mother guilt. So this is something you may have to work on within yourself if it becomes a big hindrance, so that you can work through it. Sometimes we inflict mother-guilt on ourselves as a kind of self-punishment based in old patterns of unworthiness, or sometimes it is based in themes from our own childhood and relationship to our own mother, or sometimes it is peer or social pressure. Sometimes it’s all three! As I’m sure you’ve already encountered, there is a never ending stream of advice, situations, and cultural pressures that combine to inflict mother-guilt upon today’s mothers. In my view, it’s a big problem. Remember the most important thing you can give your child is love. So just do that when you are with her, do your best at everything else, and let the rest slide off your back. If you are feeling trapped or weighed down by motherhood, resentment builds up and gets in the way of feeling love, and that does no good for either of you, so it’s really important you honor your own needs.

  6. May 5, 2016 6:23 pm

    My mom died suddenly in her sleep when I was 5.5. She was a stay at home mom so I was basically with her 24/7. Dad was a busy professor.I have an older sister and brother-12 and 10 years older than me respectively. After she died and the rest of my childhood,I never felt any send if loss or shock or grief.I don’t know why. Since becoming and adult I cry whenever anything phases me.anything.-pressure,doubt,misunderstanding,conflict…I thought it was just a quirk.Even my husband is used to it now. Now at 35 i started trying to have a baby and my cycles instantly went out of whack. I went to see a reiki therapist and after talking she says it may have something to do with losing my mum. But I don’t see this. I don’t feel sadness or grief or loss thinking about her. I don’t cry when I hink about her. So I guess my question is can you explain how or if my mom dying at that age may have affected me and my energy.? And no my dad was more like an awesome “uncle ‘ than a Mr mum.any input would be awesome. Thankyou

  7. May 5, 2016 7:34 pm

    Hi Shola, thanks for your question. Things like that are very individual, so it’s hard to say how it might have impacted you based just on the general info. The second chakra is related to both our energy body and fertility though, so from a chakras perspective, what you describe is largely related to your second chakra. In general from an energetics perspective, no, the loss of a mother is not something I see as a common link to fertility issues. But it’s not to say there isn’t a link. Of course I assume you are working with a conventional doctor too, and going through the process of evaluating everything physically? What I see more often, in terms of a mind/body/energy link, is women with physical issues inhibiting their fertility who also are survivors of sexual abuse or assault. In that case, there are often energetic blocks in the first and second chakra, and working to clear those, along with addressing whatever physical issues are present, can together help to open up a woman’s fertility.

    However, often underlying emotional fears can trigger energetic blocks in the second chakra too, so that’s something to look at. Do you feel the fact that your mother died so young may have left you with any fears around becoming a mother and leaving your own children in the same way? Or do you think you might have any fears about your ability to mother, since you did not have one around? The decision to become pregnant often highlights so many of our fears over the kind of parent we will be. It often brings long buried childhood fears and insecurities to the surface as well. So there may be some emotional issues such as that that are impacting you, rather than repressed grief over the loss of your mother. If so, then working with that in therapy, through energy work, or whatever method is comfortable for you may help.

    I always recommend second/sacral chakra meditations also when a woman is trying to conceive, I have some links on my chakras page:
    https://mommymystic.wordpress.com/chakras/
    You may also want to look at root and navel chakra meditations to create a sense of foundation and protection for your second chakra.
    Good luck to you-

  8. Rebecca permalink
    July 7, 2016 11:33 am

    Hi Lisa, I would love your advice. My 10 month old daughter is leaving me exhausted and drained. She seems to be so sensitive, she cries for hours during the day, despite having all her needs met, eg. Cuddles, sleep and feeds. If I put her down on the floor for a minute to get some chores done, she cries, if I sit with her, she cries. Don’t get me wrong, she is not like this all the time, but it seems compared to other babies she needs a lot of attention. I also have another child and he was quite a happy and settled baby in comparison so I know the difference. The point is, that it is leaving me absolutely wrecked and exhausted at the end of the day and I want my energy back so I can be a good mum and enjoy my life! I have always been very sensitive to energy so I know that her neediness is draining me. I work on my chakras religiously by meditating, especially on my third chakra, so my question is, is there anything I can do to prevent my batteries from running out? And to help my own daughter grow in a space of peace, love and nurturance? Thank you

  9. July 11, 2016 5:43 pm

    Hi Rebecca, I am so sorry to hear of your situation, I know it can be so tough, especially when you have another child. I am sure you have done this already, but it’s important to make sure there are no physical issues going on that may be contributing, i.e. any physical pain, which includes discomfort related to food allergies. A doctor can advise you how to track whether or not that may be a part of this. But assuming it’s not physical, it sounds like she is a highly sensitive child. If you haven’t already read up on this, I highly suggest goggling highly sensitive children, and reading some of the advice that you find. Others are covering this area much better than me, so I don’t want to spend too much time on it, but in general it is often a sign of being highly intuitive and empathic to energies. Because you are part of her protection field, it makes her even more anxious about separation from you. Finding ways to help her feel safe and secure will be key to her gradually outgrowing this, as will paying special attention to her environment. It will help once she is moving around more on her own too, as she will feel more in control. As she gets older, it will be important to help her establish good energetic boundaries, so she can truly own her sensitivity as a gift, not a curse.
    In the meantime, it is so important that you are taking care of yourself too. I think from a chakra perspective, root chakra energy may actually be more important than third chakra energy. Practice drawing energy up from the earth regularly throughout the day, and get into nature when possible. This will help your daughter too. You can also work on establishing an energetic boundary around both yourself and her – visualize a bubble around both of you even when you are physically apart, and see if that helps to soothe her – if she can start to tap into the energetic connection, she may be able to accept the physical separation more easily.

  10. Anonymous permalink
    July 25, 2016 3:48 am

    Thank you for this….

  11. Michelle arregoitia permalink
    October 3, 2016 10:59 am

    I came across this post by”accident” after doing a guided mediation of regaining personal power.
    I have a 22 year old son with Cerepral palsy and an intellectual disability who shows signs of bi polar. Since birth he displayed a disposition of irritation and anxiety to such a degree that it is difficult for him to feel comfortable in publi. We are at a crossroads now after finishing school at 21 last year. He waivers on going to an adult program and has difficult understanding, explaining and processing feelings. Meditation would be difficult for him as he has difficulty remaining focused.
    Today I meditated around my 3rd chakra and imagining a cord to him sending light and power.
    Any possibility that as he may not have the ability to meditate or understand these concepts, that the energy I send to him could have the same effect as if he would be able to do it for himself.
    Any advice would be appreciated.
    Thank you!

  12. October 8, 2016 9:59 pm

    Hi Michelle, absolutely the energy you send him can help him, especially as his mother. However, you really have to be careful to take care of yourself too, as I mention in this article:-)

  13. November 22, 2016 4:44 am

    Hello, I’m seeking guidance on how to feel more connected to my mother who passed away when I was 14. I am now nearly 18. My mother and I had a healthy relationship while she was alive, and we both loved each other very much. But since her death, I have felt very disconnected from her emotionally and spiritually, which has been painful. This disconnect has impacted my every day life through depression and physical illnesses. How can I try to strengthen the chord I have with her? Thank you.

  14. Mummyof3 permalink
    December 20, 2016 10:22 am

    Hi there, thank you so much for this blog. I found this after trying to make sense of an interesting but beautiful evening I had with my children.

    I have always dabbled in meditation and since having kids sending them love. But since falling pregnant and having no3 I hadn’t done anything for a while, until tonight.

    The eldest two came to bed for a cuddle and in my arms I tried to teach them meditation and send them love. I told them if they have any bad feelings come up, to let them come and let them go, and replace it with love and light.

    My daughter was concerned what would happen if they stuck to someone else. I told her to let it go to the universe. Then she was concerned about them being stuck to the stars. Not too sure about all this myself I told her the universe will know what to do with it. And to let love and my love in. Then she fell asleep, but I dont think she let those bad feelings go.

    My son said to stop as he was full of love and that in fact he was overflowing.

    I do not understand much of this (not even sure I’m doing it ‘right’?) even though I try to read about energy and learn more when I can. Where would be a child friendly place to find information easy for kids to understand, or easier for me to explain please?

  15. January 2, 2017 10:41 pm

    Hi Mummyof3, sorry I didn’t see this right away. Based on the experiences you describe, I think you know exactly what you are doing! In the sense that your intuition guided you to respond in a way that really brought your children to a beautiful place. That is not easy to do, so my number one piece of advice to you is to trust your intuition, your own spiritual connection, and your knowledge of your on children. Otherwise, I have not really found one resource that I would recommend to everyone. Most websites and books are geared around a particular religion or spiritual path, and so you can look at resources along those lines depending on your own beliefs. Books are a great resource and I do have several book lists on this blog. I also recently read a new book called Enlightened Parenting that has some good ideas, but is not just about meditation. My own approach with my own children is mostly based on modeling and responding to their inquires when they ask. Natural teachable moments such as what occurred with your own children arise all of the time, and that is when they are the most open to spiritual vibrations. Trying to ‘teach’ them in a more formal way spiritually often backfires, although it really depends on the child and family. My children see my own meditation practice and often ask about that and sometimes join in, and then we attend family retreats on occasion as well. Good luck with your growing family!

  16. L deLong permalink
    January 18, 2017 12:52 pm

    I have been having a difficult time getting past the feelings of loss during this particular time in my life. I was raised by a disconnected, although physically present, mom. My mom is now 86 and has been battling cancer over the last year. There have been moments where we didn’t think she would make it through the night. Despite the lack of emotional connection between us, I know that we are connected through this energy link between a mother and child that you wrote about above. I have felt her energy when I’m physically not with her. For example, she fell recently and couldn’t get up and I somehow heard her calling out to me on this energetic level. I went to her house and there she was on the floor. She told me that she was calling my name hoping I would feel her. I did loud and clear so much so that I dropped what I was doing in the garden, got in my car and immediately went to her. I have had no explanation for this, but in reading your words, what took place makes sense. I wish that I could be closer with my mom. I always have felt rather uncomfortable and shy when around her. We never fought or anything like that. Rebelling against a parent in my childhood home was not even a consideration. We just basically weren’t close and what it comes down to it, we don’t know each other. Amazingly, there is this link between us that is there despite not having been nurtured during our last 47 years together as mother and daughter. My own daughter is now 19 and my son is 16. We love each other deeply and are so very close and this is because the bond between us has been nurtured and appreciated. I have had to battle with my own insecurities and my own life experiences with my mom to make sure that my kids and I would have a true loving connection. I am thankful each and every day for what my kids have taught me about how to truly love. I’m far from perfect but each experience I have with them makes me feel closer to what I know is right.

  17. Miss M permalink
    January 25, 2017 10:20 pm

    I need help ♥️ Please hear me out. I’m in love, with a wonderful wonderful man, my mother doesn’t approve of him (she’s very powerful) she likes to sneak in comments here and there about him. She effects my subconscious. I know I need to cut the energetical chords because SHE IS NOT GOING TOO. How can I do that? I’ve tried talking to my inner child! What else can I do? Her comments affect our relationship. He can feel it and I get hurt by it. Even though I intellectually know I shouldn’t listen to her mean comments they affect me a lot. Please I’m in desperate need of help. How do I cut the energetical chords when my mother is refusing too?

  18. January 27, 2017 7:45 pm

    Hi Miss M, I’m sorry to hear of your struggles. You do not need your mother’s agreement in order to cut the energetic cords between you or to shift the way she impacts you. You cannot control how she treats you but you can control your reaction internally. However, that does require a lot of self-awareness, so that you can untangle the conditioned way the two of you have come to relate. If you feel this is a big problem for you, you may want to consider working with a therapist to help you through this work if that is an option. If not, then certainly do some cord cutting work. But depending on the situation, you may want to try other approaches, including talking to her on a deeper level about what her concerns and fears are. I can’t really provide specific advice through the information possible in a comment, so I encourage you to seek other resources. But in terms of your concern that your mother will not agree to cut the cord, I will say that you do not need her agreement to do so on your end. Many blessings to you as you work through this…- Lisa

  19. mommyof3 permalink
    January 28, 2017 3:22 am

    Hi mommymystic, thank you for taking the time to respond. I will do my best to trust my intuitiion more, thanks again! Happy New Year x

  20. Sadie permalink
    January 30, 2017 5:12 am

    Hi! I came across this while trying to research about energy between mother and child during pregnancy. I will be 34 weeks pregnant on Tuesday, and for the last week sometimes when my little girl makes bigger movements I feel what I can only describe as an endorphin rush. I feel a wave of warmth, and extreme contentment and happiness. It only lasts for 15 – 20 seconds but it’s really amazing honestly. At first I thought maybe something is wrong with me, but everything is fine when I go to the doctor. I started getting the feeling that I am exchanging energy with her, that I am picking up on her energy somehow. Also sometimes when she is making smaller but more active movements, at times I’ve noticed I get an uncomfortable feeling, like I can’t stop moving and slightly anxious. Have you ever experienced anything like this, or heard of it?

  21. February 1, 2017 12:59 am

    Hi Sadie, yes this is all very normal, and it’s both a physical and energetic process. On the energetic side, you are very linked right now, and she is more ‘present’ in your womb as it gets closer to birth, although not yet bonded to her body, that does not happen until the first breath. But the doorway between the spiritual/energetic planes and the physical world are open right now – in you. A women’s second chakra is a spiritual doorway, just as her body is a physical doorway for birth. So enjoy the feeling and trust in it and what you and your body can do. Blessings to you for the rest of your pregnancy and birth. – Lisa

  22. Alisa permalink
    March 27, 2017 10:42 pm

    Hi, I think I am inadvertently connected to my 24 year old son. I will text me a random picture right as he’s thinking of that same thing, we can be miles apart and both feel nausea at the same time, etc.

    WELL, I have anxiety issues. And I’m worried I may have given them to him. He didn’t even know that I was dealing with this, and now he describes feeling the same way that I do.

    Could be coincidence, or genetics, but considering the tie we have it is something I’m concerned about.

    I’d like to know how to sever our psychic tie, so that I don’t accidentally transfer my anxiety to him.

    Any help would be appreciated.

  23. March 27, 2017 10:45 pm

    Could someone please tell me how to break a psychic tie?

  24. March 27, 2017 10:46 pm

    I didn’t mean to post twice, I thought it didn’t accept my comment, sorry!

  25. March 31, 2017 3:55 pm

    Hi Alisa, it’s difficult to know for sure what’s going on without knowing the two of you, but I will comment on a few things and hopefully you will find it helpful. The first is that of course both genetics and parental emotional patterns play a role in how a child develops, so your son may have similar emotional patterns to you for both reasons. And as an adult, he will need to work through those as part of his own growth trajectory in life, and that is not something to feel bad about as a parent, because we all do our best, and the kind of self-awareness and personal work that these patterns require to release is part of what it means to be human. It’s clear you love your son, so that is the most important thing you have done for him.
    However, I realize that you aren’t simply talking about his psychological patterns as being similar to your own, but rather that he seems to be feeling the anxiety you are feeling even when he doesn’t have anything going on in his life that might trigger it. And it is of course entirely possible that he is picking up your emotional state right now through your mother-child energy connection. This is not a line that can be ‘cut’ however. What you can do is intend to ‘clear’ your line with him and not send this energy to him. However, the majority of the shift needs to occur on his end – he needs to intend not to pick this up from you, and close his end of the line, and his energy body off to this energy from you. This is hard though, because he no doubt loves you and wants to help you. The shift the two of you will need to make is how to love each other, and how to send each other love and support, without taking on each other’s current emotional state. In a way, this is the challenge of every relationship with people we love, and it is a lifelong process. So there isn’t a simple exercise I can give you to resolve it. However, it is mostly about intention, and one visualization that you can use to help affirm your intent is this: imagine a energy line between his navel and your womb, and imagine a bright gold light in the center that gradually spreads to clear and lighten the entire line. Then imagine a door on each end – one near him and one hear you – and imagine shutting those doors. Then imagine light from both of your hearts emanating towards each other – not as a line, just as a glow of light. This visual is a way of representing the shift I am talking about, one where you send love and support to each other, but do not share your emotions energetically.
    As for the other example you gave, of receiving a picture from him right as you were thinking of that – that is an intuitive link, and is normal between intuitive people that are deeply connected. It is not a problem unless it is bothering you. It is not the same as the anxiety being shared on the emotional line.
    Hope this helps, and I encourage you to explore meditation, counseling, or any other method you can to help you deal with your own anxiety too. Blessings –

  26. Alisa permalink
    April 2, 2017 11:07 am

    Thank you much for your input! This gives me a lot to think about.

  27. Danie permalink
    June 21, 2017 8:22 pm

    Thank you so much for your insight- I found it enlighting and calming. My son is almost 19 and will be leaving for a 2 yr job training program- i found out yesterday and began to experience an overwhelming panic unlike any I’ve ever experienced- I knew this day was coming but as soon as I got the date it all became so overwelminly real.I believe myself to be tuned in and aware of energetic connections and acknowledged the shifts and evolution of my son and I relationship. I had my son as a premie at the early age of 17 and the first 5 yrs we’re very traumatic and stressful- I have known my son to be my anchor -I have always been
    very involved and always thrive to give my son the best possible life despite the struggles of being a teen mom.The past 2 yrs have been bit of struggle as he seemed out his independence in negitive ways and I had to learn to give him his time and space and I found a lot of resistance and inner turmoil watching him struggle. Now I’m at this place of ending the norms of motherhood and the begining of the unknown of what’s in store for myself as well as having the best wishes for my son so he can experience what he must and grow into the man he’s meant to be. I personally feel like now this is almost as scary if not more when I gave birth to a 2 Ib infant without any plans or intentions. I know this all part of my indidividual path and I have done all I can to guide my son into his very own path. I will always offer unconditional love and intimate support but I know even though this change is terrifying for both of us- it’s neccecarry. I feel that my experience is hard to share w others as I believe the “mother” experience is unique and diverse for every woman- I feel such a deep energetic movement within at this time. I am now taking time to honor who he is and to allow things to be what they will be and to let go of the fear I’ve held onto for half my life since I’ve become a mom. This is also all occurring on the start of summer solstice . I am a huge processor and am being gentle with myself thru this. Would sincerely appreciate any advice or insight that would help us ease into the transition.

    Much gratitude

  28. June 22, 2017 12:48 am

    I am wondering what happens to this energy connection when one person dies
    Is the connection broken?

  29. June 23, 2017 1:25 am

    Hi 1in160blog,
    The specific energy connection I am talking about in this post does end yes, because it is a line in the subtle body connected to the physical body for developmental purposes. The subtle body has many levels, it is a bridge between the physical body, the karmic and psychological body, and the mind/spirit. This particular energy line is formed in utero, mirrors the umbilical cord, and is located on the part of the subtle body connected to the physical body, so it ends when one or the other physical bodies end.
    However, we of course all have many different levels, and if two beings have a karmic and/or spirit relationship beyond the mother/child relationship of this particular lifetime, then they will still be connected on some other plane or level. It is just not a ‘line’ connection like I am talking about here. I hope that is helpful information for you.
    Lisa

  30. June 23, 2017 1:29 am

    Hi Danie, thanks for sharing your motherhood story, and it sounds to me like you are navigating this shift well on your own. It’s not easy, but you seem to understand the need to let go and let your son make his own decisions (and possibly mistakes) on his own, so he can learn his own life lessons, as you have done. And you seem to also understand that now is a time to turn back into yourself and see what your next phase of life has to offer. These are the most important things. From an energetic perspective, if you like to work in that way, you could visualize the line between you and your son having a door mid-way through that you can open and close, and imagine that it is now closed most of the time, only to be opened/activated in ’emergencies’ such as health crises or other crises situations. You can also imagine sending light to your son from your heart, wishing him well on his life journey. You can feel into where in your body you specifically feel anxiety about him as well, and bring light to it for release. These are all the kinds of things I do with parents working on letting go, and that I use myself. Wishing you and your son much joy on your next phase- Lisa

  31. Katie Campbell permalink
    June 23, 2017 12:17 pm

    Hi there. I would love to connect as I’ve recently had some challenges with my little one. Do you offer phone consults? Or do you offer energy treatments or intuitive sessions for baby and mother?
    Thanks so much in advance.
    Warmly
    Katie

  32. July 7, 2017 1:47 pm

    I love this!!! This has helped me a lot because I’m just starting to get into learning about chakras and have a newborn that sparked this question.

  33. July 7, 2017 4:56 pm

    Hi Katie, glad we were able to connect by email. Lisa

  34. July 7, 2017 4:58 pm

    Perpetual, wonderful, I’m glad it resonated. Lisa

  35. Anonymous permalink
    July 7, 2017 10:26 pm

    my mom drains my energy. makes me feel like i suck and cant do anything.

  36. July 10, 2017 3:48 pm

    Hi Anonymous, I’m sorry to hear this. Although there is an energy line between mothers and children, you can take control of your reaction to her words anyway. Seek your own power and inner resources, know who you are, and claim your life. Depending on the situation maybe at some point you and your mother will be able to discuss this pattern and you both can come to understand why she feels the need to act in this way. Wishing you luck – Lisa

  37. Taylor permalink
    August 4, 2017 6:00 am

    Hi thank you for the enlightening post. I’m feeling lost in this parenting thing. My son 22 month old son and I have run into some challenges the past 6 months. I somehow know it is energy related to me.He’s been regressing developmentally and emotionally. I know I’m his most beloved but he’s been acting extremely aggressive with me. Biting hitting ect. It seems like anything to cause pain or defy me specifically is his goal. When I come home from work he cries and bangs his head on the ground but I know he just wants a hug and to nurse. I have been working on my own spiritual connection and trying to get him involved. I bring him to kirtan,chant in the car with him, yoga, and try my own energy work on him. I’m feeling its his 1st chakra. I dont think he feels safe with me or maybe I’m gone too long at work I don’t know what to do. He is my heart and I know something is wrong and I’m trying my best but things just seem to be getting worse. It makes me so sad. Any encouraging words would be appreciated. Thank you for your time and dedication to intuitive gift.

  38. August 8, 2017 1:24 am

    Hi Taylor, I’m so sorry you are struggling. Of course at 22 months there are many changes developmentally as your son discovers and exercises his autonomy, and many of the behaviors you have described are not all that unusual in this phase. But I trust your instinct as a mother that something else is going on, and encourage you to seek parenting resources. I’m not sure I really can offer any useful specific energetic advice with just this information, but I can tell that you are an engaged, loving, aware mother, and that counts for a lot. Our children go through so many different phases as they grow, and as they leave babyhood more and more of what they experience apart from us is not in our control, although they will often take it out on us if they are having trouble processing it. Sometimes backlash against us is actually a sign we are their ‘safe space’. So perhaps it is not personal to you, but rather a sign he is processing other changes or events in his environment. In these cases, if we can offer an unconditional loving energy as they process what it means to be a part of this world, that counts for a lot in terms of getting them through it. Good luck – Lisa

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