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Mother-Child Energy Lines, Part II

January 22, 2019

For my first post of 2019, I am adding on to the post that was viewed the most in 2018 – The Mother-Child Energy Connection. Though an older post, it has built up an audience over time – perhaps not surprising as the mother-child connection is one of the most powerful of our lives (for better or worse), and one that is relevant to all of us: Whether or not you have children, you do have, or have had, a mother.

In fact, dependence upon a mother is one of the defining characteristics of human life. While gestation is common to most mammals, the level of helplessness with which humans are born, coupled with the length of time it takes us to reach maturity, is unique. Dependence upon others is built into our experience, integral to what it means to be human. And while many may provide us care, because we gestate within a birth mother, this energy line is unique.

Before I add on to what I’ve already written about this topic, I’d like to clarify what I mean by ‘energy line’. I view all of the various structures we work with in energy work – chakras, meridians, energy lines, cords, etc. – as components on various energy maps. These maps provide our conceptual and intuitive mind with hooks it can utilize to connect with our subtle body. There are many different energy maps, and just like with maps in the physical world, which one is best for you to use depends on what you are trying to accomplish.

Working with maps focused on energy lines is most useful when dealing with relationships. We all exchange energy with other people when we interact with them, and within these exchanges thinking in terms of ‘energy lines’ is most useful in terms of our ongoing relationships, and/or particularly intense ones. In most cases, lines form as a relationship develops over time, and the connection points in our own subtle body will reflect the dynamics we have with the other person – is it based in emotion, power dynamics, intellectual compatibility, common purpose, etc. (of course many of our relationships are a combination of several dynamics.) Within energy lines, two types are unique, because they develop based on physicality, as opposed to interactions over time (although those interactions may impact the line): Sexual lines, formed during sex, and mother-child energy lines, formed in gestation and mirroring the umbilical cord. Both these kinds of lines feel very different from other lines when you connect with and work with them, and the energies and emotions that flow along these lines can be particularly intense (which should come as no surprise to anyone.)

I don’t want to repeat everything I have already written about the mother-child line in the original post, so if you haven’t read that, please do. But here are answers to the most common questions I have been asked about this line over the years since that was first posted:

What about adoptive parents, fathers, and other caretakers – is the energy line they form with a child less valuable?

No! on the contrary – there is nothing provided by the mother-child energy line of value that cannot be provided by others. Many people are not raised by their birth mother, and a lot of individuals may participate in a child’s care – fathers, partners, stepparents, extended relatives, siblings, and other caretakers. All of these individuals will develop lines with a child – hopefully based in love (the more the better of these.) Because of the second chakra’s role in nurturing energies, on the caretaker side these lines will often involve the second chakra, especially if formed with a baby or young child that still requires intensive physical care. In general, these are of a different type than the mother-child line formed through gestation, although I have seen lines between adoptive mothers and children that have formed over time and that are almost identical.

However, just because the mother-child energy line is unique doesn’t mean a child is missing out if they don’t have a relationship with their birth mother. There is nothing provided through this line that can’t be provided through other energy lines by other caretakers. It is not a necessary line, and no one is missing something essential if they don’t have a relationship with their birth mother – what is necessary for any child, any being, is to have a network of caring individuals in their life. For adoptees that have no contact with their birth mother, the birth mother-child line simply closes on its own over time. It may be reactivated if someone chooses to meet their birth mother later, or it may not.

So why bring this line up at all then? Why is it useful to know about? The value of understanding this energy line, and the value of working with it through energy work or healing, is usually in cases of dysfunction. Learning to close this line is particularly important if your own mother was abusive or suffered from addiction or mental health issues, or experienced trauma which you may have taken on through this line unknowingly. Another possible dysfunction is if your mother did not allow this line to shift and deactivate as you became an adult, and attempts to control you through it. Or conversely, as a mother, you may want to consciously work with this line if you feel overwhelmed by parenthood, constantly anxious about your children, or know that you are inhibiting their independence more than you should. In all these cases, whether as a parent or child, working to consciously close or relax this line will help you to regain your energetic autonomy and balance.

Is this energy line linked to epigenetics?

This line is not the main foundation for energetic inheritance, and therefore not the most useful for doing energy work to help ‘toggle’ genetic proclivities on or off (see this article for more info on epigenetics and energy work.) This line is more connected to psychological imprinting, and so as mentioned above is often most useful to work with in cases where someone has taken on trauma or dysfunction from their mother that is not their own.

Does this line continue after death?

No. This particular energy line is very rooted in the physical body, and ends when either individual leaves the physical. Adjusting to the loss of this line can be very difficult, in addition to the grief experienced. This is especially the case if a child loses a mother before they’ve reached energetic independence, or a mother loses a child before the child is grown – in both cases the remaining individual’s subtle body has to go through a major adjustment process, similar to an amputee adjusting to the loss of a limb. It takes time and compassion.

However, just because this particular line ends with death does not mean there are no other types of connections that remain. These are psycho-spiritual in nature though, usually rooted in the heart or third eye chakras, rather than the navel or sacral. Certainly there may be value in working with a spirit medium or healer to reach closure in these cases, but this is not done through working with the mother-child sacral-navel energy line.

How do these lines impact energy workers, energy healers, or spiritual practitioners who work on energetic levels and need a great deal of energetic integrity and strength in order to do what they do?

The short answer is – a lot! If you engage in any kind of energy healing work, or energy based spiritual practice, then working to clear and balance your own energy lines of all types is critical to both your effectiveness and your self-care. If you are a mother, learning to balance your children’s energy needs along with your own is essential. These needs change over time, as I outlined in the original article, and so you may find you need to pace yourself accordingly along with your children’s developmental stages (which correspond to their energetic independence.) The amount of support you receive from your partner and other caregivers will influence this as well. More than anything, learning to close these lines when it is appropriate, so that you may replenish your own energy and do your work, is key.

However, having children, and the impact of these energy lines, may also shift your intuitive abilities, and mode of working energetically, in a way that is beneficial to yourself and clients (if you do client work.) I experienced this myself after the birth of my first daughter. Although initially I was dismayed at how my energy seemed grounded in my lower body in a way that prevented the kundalini from rising in meditation in the way it had previously, over time I realized that I was developing new kinesthetic (body-based) intuitive abilities that eventually led to the work I am doing now (for more on different types of intuition I recommend Cyndi Dale’s The Intuition Guidebook.) With the birth of twins just 19 months later, I definitely experienced ‘need overload’ and had problems balancing my energy, but with time, and as my children grew, I learned to do so. Now the upward kundalini flow is restored, and I am much better at managing my ‘mandala’ of energy lines. Pacing has been key.

What’s a basic tool for working with this line?

The simplest most effective tool that is applicable to a wide variety of situations is visualizing a door on this line that you can open and close as needed. If you are doing this with the line to your own mother visualize a line from your navel to your mother’s sacral chakra area. If you are doing it with your own children, visualize lines from your sacral area to their navels (with multiple children it really is like a mandala, with you in the center.) Imagine there is a door on this line close to your own body. Visualize closing this door, and a settling of energy when you do so – a quieting, like when you close the door to a room and can no longer hear noise made in another room of your home. Imagine you can then open the line as you wish.

As with all visual energy work, this visualization works on two levels. Psychologically it functions as an affirmation of ‘I have the right and ability to maintain my own energetic integrity.’ It also triggers a shift on your energy body level, which over time you will be able to feel, and enable you to gain control over this line. Closing this line is never meant to be punitive or done out of anger or spite. The value of this tool is for energy balance and self-care- when you need to rejuvenate, reboot, or retreat. Energy lines may also be cut or cleared, or worked with in other ways, but in the case of this particular line, working with toggling it open and closed is often the most relevant and helpful. Other variations and types of work with this line are really specific to an individual’s needs and situation.

The mother-child energy line is one of the most powerful and central in our lives, and understanding it is important for anyone interested in working with the subtle body. Learning to work with this line can greatly aid our ability to engage with our own mother, and children, with love and compassion. I hope you found this helpful and look forward to any insights you have of your own.

12 Comments leave one →
  1. Traci permalink
    January 22, 2019 8:56 pm

    Thank you, I found both of these articles very helpful. I am myself adopted and was told by a reiki healer years ago that I had a cord to my birth mother, who I had never met, that was damaging to me because she was then an addict with serious mental health issues. The healer helped me to cut that cord, and although I was never quite sure I believed in the whole thing, I did have some positive breakthroughs in my life and health after that. Would that have been this line, or was it something different?

  2. Anonymous permalink
    January 22, 2019 8:59 pm

    Thank you. I am still learning to work with this line, I have two young kids and work full time. My problem is I always feel guilty taking time for myself. I know I need to but really always feel I should be spending my free time with my kids. Then of course there is my marriage too. There just is not enough time or energy to go around. I know this isn’t exactly what you are writing about but do you have any advice related to this energy line that may help? Thank you. – JN

  3. January 22, 2019 9:45 pm

    Hi Traci, to my mind, this is something different, but not every energy worker uses terms like line and cord in the same way. I generally use ‘cord’ to refer to some kind of dysfunctional energetic codependency or contract that is reflected on the energetic level. That could occur on the karmic level with a birth mother you have never met, so the healer may have sensed something like that. Or he/she may have been working to fully close this mother-chid energy line that I am talking about, sensing that the connection was draining to you in some way, although I have found that in most adoptees this line has become closed on its own by the time they reach adulthood (not sure how old you were when this occurred.) In any case, it’s good to hear that you did feel some benefit, whether psychological or energetic or both. To my mind, this is really how energy work functions – on both levels. Being told this cord was being cut may have freed you up psychologically in some way that you hadn’t known you needed, even apart from any energy shift. Thank you for sharing. Lisa

  4. January 22, 2019 9:59 pm

    Hi JN, this is a question I get ALOT, and of course I have had my own challenges with it. The pace of modern life, work-life balance, and the issues around managing it all, are really major ones for our society. And for women in particular, with research continuing to show that we shoulder a disproportionate amount of domestic responsibilities (let alone the emotional baggage) within two-parent working households. There are a lot of real on-the-ground structural social changes that need to occur for this to improve, on a lot of levels. But I know that’s not what you’re asking, so more to your point, practicing the basic tool I outlined in the last question here really can help, because once you have a felt sense of these energy lines, you can replenish faster when you need to, by giving yourself a ‘time out’ by closing these lines for a bit each day. It does take practice however, so I suggest picking a time each day to do so – I know you don’t need anymore to do each day, but perhaps you can build it into your lunch break, or shower, or some other activity that you are doing anyway. Practice closing these lines and feeling like you are blessedly ‘alone’ with your own energy, replenishing from within (you can even visualize this happening within each chakra if you are familiar with them) for a few minutes each day.
    On a more macro level, I mentioned feeling like the center of a family mandala in here, and that can really be a helpful visual too. Your life is a mandala, and you are striving to balance each time and the entire mandala, rather than striving to excel in each individual component. If we are focused on being perfect in any one thing we can feel like we are always falling short, but if we think more in terms of overall balance we can often feel better about what we actually ARE bringing to each area of our life.
    I hope that helps a bit, and good luck to you – it does get better. Lisa

  5. March 8, 2019 10:50 pm

    Hello.

    Thank you for your wonderful articles. They’ve helped me understand how I myself can best help my daughter in relation to our cord.

    I’m wonder how to cut my daughters cord to her father? This may sound extreme but he sexually abused her from the age of 3 to 6 years old once I left him and he had shared custody. She hasn’t seen him since she was 6 and I have sole custody and a restraining order. My daughter is getting flashbacks and is severely depressed and suicidal. She’s only 11.

    She is extremely connected to him and they’ve always had a knowing between them. For example a few weeks ago she was up like she is many nights crying and was fearful that he was coming to hurt her. Say that the intervention order was just a piece of paper. The very next day (thankful without her witnessing it) he drove past our place slowly staring in 5 times. She’s always just known when his attention is focused on us and unfortunately it is still focused on us.

    The police have a warrant for his arrest and although he’s evading them, they are taking care if things from that point of view but my concern is her emotion decline and I need to release her from his energetic hold.

    Could you please advise me on the best way to do this. He and his family (who are very supportive of him) are extremely strong energetically.

    Warm Regards,

    Kristen.

  6. March 9, 2019 12:55 am

    Hi Kristen, I am so sorry to hear of your situation. First of all, I hope that you are getting mental health support for your daughter? I know it can be hard to find resources but there are many free ones available for abuse survivors, especially children. The police or victims support unit may be able to help you if you have not already found some. While line cutting and other energy work can help, it is best used in combination with counseling and other support. As 11 she is at a particularly sensitive time of her development, and as a trauma survivor she will most certainly need some support (and you too.)
    In terms of line cutting you can as her mother visualize cutting the cord between them and it will help to some extent. However, to the extent she is psychologically connected to him, the line will likely re-establish. So psychological support is also crucial for helping her to disconnect on every level. Then line cutting will naturally occur, and ‘take’ when done from an energetics perspective. Often abuse survivors harbor feelings of self-blame or guilt that keep them connected to their abuser. This is especially difficult for children to manage when a parent was/is the abuser. So helping your daughter to sort through all of this is so important.
    I hope you find the support you need.

  7. Anonymous permalink
    March 26, 2019 2:13 pm

    Very interesting. How do you think helicopter parenting fits with this.

  8. March 27, 2019 3:43 pm

    Hi Anonymous, great question. I have heard other new terms for over-involved, over-protective parents, such as lawnmower parents (always clearing the way for their kids) or bulldozing parents (same idea) – I guess the current college admissions scandal are extreme (and privileged) examples we can think of. Certainly this kind of activity can indicate an unwillingness to let go on the part of a parent, and limit a child’s ability to take control of their own energy and will. So this kind of activity may slow down the natural separation/lessening of this line that should take place in sync with increased psychological and life independence. This energetically impacts both mother and child.

  9. Lee permalink
    April 11, 2019 7:16 am

    Appreciate it! Really such a great informative article.was searching on Mother Child Energy Connection and stumbled upon on your very well explained article.I can very much relate to.I was adopted and always have questions Where did I come from? Why was I given up for adoption? What are my roots? Such questions cause stress, anxiety, and sometimes anger and depression.

  10. Jack Sadler permalink
    April 11, 2019 9:18 am

    Thank you for this great information on Mother-Child Energy. This is the first blog on Child Energy I have read. Really appreciated this blog. I think there are many chakras in our body and Throat Chakra is the most powerful one.

  11. Stacey permalink
    June 2, 2019 7:17 am

    Hi there,
    What kind of energy worker would o approach to help my son and myself clear blockages we have at the moment (he’s 6 years old and I’m feeling a great disconnect from him and feel we need some help to move through this in order to restore / reintroduce the next level of connection).
    Thanks!
    Stacey

  12. June 3, 2019 12:05 am

    Hi Stacey, hmmm, it’s hard to know without knowing more about the issues. In many cases, talk therapy might be more helpful with someone who specializes in children or parenting issues. 6 is an age when kids are beginning to separate from their parents in new ways as it is, so sometimes a feeling of disconnect can be a temporary expression of a transition that is occurring. In any case blocks like this will always have a psychological component, not just energetic, so often have to be addressed at both levels. Some reiki or other energy workers will not work with children, and others will, so that would be the first thing I would check into. I’m sorry I can’t be of more help! Good luck with these shifts. Lisa

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