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The Energetics of Midlife – Burning in the Fire

March 8, 2012

Alex Grey’s Holy Fire,

“In each moment the fire rages, it will burn away a hundred veils.

And carry you a thousand steps toward your goal.” -Rumi

There’s one word for summing up the energetics of midlife, at least within the spiritual traditions that discuss it – FIRE. As in holy fire, sacred fire, kundalini, transformative light, and the burning away of obstacles and any debris. Also hot flashes of course, which I have yet to experience, but are all part of the energetic fun.

From an energetic perspective, midlife shifts occur throughout our forties. Biologically, perimenopuase for women is the 8-10 years prior to menopause, and the current average age for menopause is 51. Throughout most of our 40s then, our body (and energy body!) are experiencing shifts in preparation for menopause, regardless of whether we experience any physical symptoms. Our hormones are shifting, and usually we experience at least some cycle irregularity during this time.

Energetically, this irregularity extends to the cycles of our subtle body. From adolescence through our thirties, our subtle body follows a predictable pattern of centrifugal and centripetal action corresponding to our menstrual cycle. In the 2 weeks or so leading up to ovulation, our subtle body shifts towards a more outward, expressive, emanating mode – what some call the ‘intention’ phase of our cycle. In the following 2 weeks or so leading into menstruation, this reverses, and our energy gradually becomes more inward-focused, absorbent, and receptive – sometimes called the ‘intuitive’ phase.

If you are attuned to your chakras, or any other subtle body mapping, you can clearly feel this shifting at the level of each energy center. It adds a whole new dimension to PMS, because you can begin to see how some of the symptoms normally associated with it are partly due to an increased energetic sensitivity. This is the root of many feminine spiritual traditions that consider menses a time for seclusion – not because we are ‘unclean’ but because we are highly sensitive and in fact can use this time to seek answers, receive visions, and facilitate transformation.

During perimenopause, this predictable cycle is thrown into flux. Instead, we can go through months of feeling hyper-sensitive to our energetic surroundings (a long intuitive phase), followed by months of feeling super-productive and expressive (a long intentional phase.) Relationships and boundaries that we thought we had all figured out suddenly don’t seem to be working anymore. Ditto for our identity, which is often already getting hammered by the fact that our children are getting older, society models physical attractiveness on 20-somethings, and a growing awareness that we are in fact (as my 5-year old daughter so nonchalantly reminded me) mortal.

This is more than enough to make our 40s a tumultuous time, full of potential to either crash and burn or grow beyond our wildest dreams (or more likely, a little of both.) However, there is another interesting thing that our 40s are associated with, and this is a natural rising of the kundalini energy, particularly the red kundalini from our root up through each of our chakras as it attempts to push through any blocks it encounters. This is what we are trying to facilitate in chakra meditation practices, and it can also happen spontaneously at any time, but many energy workers believe that it occurs for almost everyone to some degree during their 40s.

I first came across this teaching many years ago in Barbara Hand Clow’s Liquid Light of Sex: Kundalini, Astrology and Key Life Transitions although I later found support for it in Tantric teachings as well (‘liquid light of sex’ is a phrase sometimes used to refer to the kundalini, although I prefer ‘liquid light of creation’, as sexual energy is really just one expression of it.) I don’t want to get too bogged down in the astrological details, but basically the phase we usually refer to as midlife is astrologically defined by two key transits:

Our Uranus Opposition: This usually happens around 41/42, although it can impact us for up to a year before and a year after this. Uranus is sometimes called the ‘awakener’, and it is linked to the kundalini energy. Traditionally, the Uranus opposition is a time of deep questioning of all conditioned or accepted beliefs. It can also be a time of deep triggering, as the kundalini energy receives a ‘boost’, and if we have set a trajectory of spiritual growth, this will trigger literally any block we have at any chakric level. This means all fears, insecurities, or resentments will come boiling to the surface, and there is a tremendous opportunity to face and release these once and for all. The other choice is to dig our feet in and cement ourselves even deeper within these limiting patterns, which in many cases will close the door on any major personal growth for the rest of this lifetime.

Our Chiron Return: Around 51/52, we experience our Chiron Return, although this also varies slightly according to our individual chart and extends for some time before and after. Chiron is associated with healing, and particularly with spiritual healing – releasing karmic wounds, or if you prefer ‘learning the lessons’, that are our primary themes for this lifetime. If we enter this phase aware and ready to let go of all our baggage, we head into the last decades of our life as true ‘wise women/men.’ On an energy body level, if we have spent our forties allowing the kundalini to work its way up through all our chakras, triggering and clearing as it moves, we enter our Chiron Return ready to be completely transformed into a being of light. Although enlightenment is possible at any time, this period in particular is pregnant with this potential. And no matter what, it is a time when we can shift into transmitting light through us, becoming an instrument for it in the world, at a level we can only imagine prior to this. In other words, as our physical body ages, our energy body comes to the forefront, and we increasingly live, and interact, from it.

Heady stuff. What it means is that our 40s are potentially a time for a complete energetic rebirthing. Of course, when we are in it, living our daily lives, it is hard to see how to integrate that understanding. Everything is shifting in and around us – our bodies, our careers, our families, our view of the world. I think the best thing we can do, and what mystics throughout the ages have advised us to do is to stay in the fire. As Rumi puts it in another great passage of his:

“If your knowledge of fire has been turned to certainty by words alone,then seek to be cooked by the fire itself.

Don’t abide in borrowed certainty.

There is no real certainty until you burn; if you wish for this, sit down in the fire.”

In other words, let all you have assumed to be true, burn, and awaken to a new kind of knowledge. Let all that is uncomfortable come to the surface. Expend no more energy in trying to hide your shadows, from yourself or others. Face them – this is the fire. Express your dreams, don’t let them wallow. Cook in the fire, and be transformed.

If the intention to do this is true in you, the kundalini will bring it all to the surface for you, as it seeks to move deeper into each chakra. This will remake you, clearing what you no longer need, and planting the seeds for new potential, as a fire does for the woods. If you are a woman, and thus going through perimenopause at the same time, your body is literally remaking itself too. Of course, you don’t want to actually burn out, so sometimes you need to slow down the process, and that’s OK. This is where self-care comes in, and spiritual practice, and energy healing work if you need it.

So that’s midlife! Pretty exciting no? Feel free to share your own stories and insights in the comments. From inside the fire, that’s all for now:-) Namaste-

38 Comments leave one →
  1. March 8, 2012 9:58 pm

    yes…that all resonates…I just turned 47…thanks…great post!

  2. March 8, 2012 10:03 pm

    Wow, amazing insight. I’ve been struggling with perimenopause for a while now, and this really helped put in into a new perspective. Thanks!

  3. spirityoga permalink
    March 8, 2012 10:55 pm

    Happy Birthday, Lisa. Great post — I will definitely be revisiting this post when I enter my 40s. Which is quite soon, actually!

    I don’t think I’m often aware of this monthly shift, but I will start to pay more attention to this…
    “In the 2 weeks or so leading up to ovulation, our subtle body shifts towards a more outward, expressive, emanating mode – what some call the ‘intention’ phase of our cycle. In the following 2 weeks or so leading into menstruation, this reverses, and our energy gradually becomes more inward-focused, absorbent, and receptive – sometimes called the ‘intuitive’ phase.”

    I like this — I think we can learn from this…
    “In other words, let all you have assumed to be true, burn, and awaken to a new kind of knowledge. Let all that is uncomfortable come to the surface. Expend no more energy in trying to hide your shadows, from yourself or others. Face them – this is the fire. Express your dreams, don’t let them wallow. Cook in the fire, and be transformed.”

    Many blessings!

  4. March 8, 2012 11:14 pm

    Giannakali – glad it resonated, would love to hear more about your experiences.

    Lenora – great Lenora, sometimes just the shift in perception that comes with understanding we are in the middle of a transformative process can help. If you are experiencing physical symptoms hopefully you have found some good resources, but if not, 3 good resources are Dr. Christiane Northrup’s Wisdom of Menopause, Donna Eden’s Energy Medicine for Women, and Marilyn Glenville’s Natural Health Bible for Women.

    SpiritYoga – glad it resonated, and yes the advice to stay in the fire is applicable many times in our lives, especially if we are working with the kundalini at any times…

  5. March 8, 2012 11:23 pm

    Donna Eden’s book was revelatory for me…I’d not ever talked to anyone with such radical PMS issues as she and I have…and she helped me understand much of what you write above in this post!!

    So…more about my experiences:
    Today with the full moon I am also about to get my period…the energy is really intense…and CREATIVE…sometimes overwhelming. My experience is complicated by a chronic illness I’ve been dealing with for several years and Kundalini is one way I’ve come to understand that as well…AND I actually wrote about Kali today…that will share even a bit more about my experience of late…

    Thanks again…it’s really good to read about another woman who views this stuff in a similar way…I’ve not really talked to too many people who do…though it seems I’m finding more now…

  6. March 9, 2012 1:31 pm

    Such recognition and resonance–I have been trying to write about these shifts at my blog for almost 3 years, using refashioning jewelry as a metaphor for refashioning life. But I’ve been doing it by staying away from astrology and the language of spirituality because, well….why? I didn’t think anyone would be interested in the tools I have used for growth and even in deepening the faith in which I grew up.

    I am now 55, and looking back over the past 8 years, the word “alchemy” comes to mind. I have been through the fire, sometimes hell, but more often, the Refiner’s Fire, it was joy, it was sexually explosive, it was returning to the core of my most creative self. It included forgiveness of others and forgiving myself. And it continues!!

    I was thrown into menopause at age 47 with a sudden and complete hysterectomy. My dad died 6 weeks after that. I often wonder if midlife crisis isn’t just resisting walking through the fire and learning to experience surrender and joy.

    Would LOVE to repost this at my blog and do a little interview with you! What do you say?

    (And by the way, yours is the only other blog that I immediately click READ on when it comes through my email)

  7. March 9, 2012 2:41 pm

    Lisa, this is a marvelous piece. I absolutely loved it and could resonate with every bit of it. I did go through the burning—and what a transformational time it was. My 40s was a full blown roast! And into my 50s too. I’m happy to say that I’m pretty sure I’ve made the transition and am now enjoying the fruits and insights that came from those years. Interesting though, I am on the very high end of the menopause cut off and I sense this is because there still might be a few things that have to be “burned away.” And reclaimed. Gathering up power in a new one. One that benefits myself and all beings with whom I share myself and my life.

    Kudos to you for pulling together all this wonderful research and sharing your time and energy with us! xo

  8. Melinda Rodriguez permalink
    March 9, 2012 2:44 pm

    Happy Birthday! This was truly inspiring to me in several ways. I have been studying, practicing and teaching Goddess spirituality and women’s wisdom for many years. At the turn of the century I even went through an entire year-and-a-day program. I am so very familiar with the power of our blood and the need for sacredness around our moon time and yet, I have never really integrated the deep awareness and understanding of the waxing and waning of our entire cycle until reading this. For me the creative time is pre ovulation, which happens to coincide with the waxing moon, and my introspective time is post ovulation which then coincides with a waning moon. I also find the need to go into and introverted, introspective, somewhat secluded time just prior to my moon time. If I don’t honor that, PMS takes over and shoos everyone away in a not-so-nice way. Once I enter my moon time there is a huge release and after a day or two I feel refreshed and ready to emerge once again. But I have never really been able to articulate that until reading this.

    What also inspires me is that you are 45 and a mother to 5 year old twins! I am 42 and trying to conceive my second child. I have one child who is 23 and here I am divorced and in a very happy relationship and trying to start all over again. I always feel hope when I hear of other women having children in their 40’s. It helps quiet that inner voice that tells me I’m too old. Hogwash!!!

    Lastly, I found what you shared about the Kundalini rising very enlightening. I am cooking in that fire and diligently keeping aware so as not to get burned but rather nicely sautéed. Very interesting indeed to be at this amazing stage in life and yet desiring to return to the mother stage and all that it entails. I look forward to hearing about your adventures of raising young children while “cooking in the fire.”

    In Rhythm & Harmony,

  9. March 9, 2012 2:49 pm

    GiannaKali, thanks for sharing more and I can’t wait to read your Kali piece…that is interesting that you are on a full moon rather than dark moon cycle, in some traditions that is considered very creatively intense and the sign of an unorthodox thinker and energetic structure…and intense PMS is often associated with someone with very strong sacral (2nd) chakra energies which of course is also linked to creativity, emotions, sensuality/sexuality, etc. as well as with healing abilities (which is what I associated Eden’s with). Learning to release and distribute that energy is key…hopefully you have found resources helping you to do that…in Tantra traditions it also means there is a real proclivity for spiritual paths that involve the sacral chakra – the sacred sexuality paths but also the Tantra paths that don’t involve sex, but rather traveling through the sacral chakra as a doorway…

  10. March 9, 2012 2:53 pm

    Cate – yes alchemy is perfect. I love the stuff you have shared on your blog. I am also curious how it has impacted your singing/music, because part of what I believe happens with a powerful Chiron Return is that we begin to live more from our ‘lightbody’ rather than physical body as I mentioned, and musicians pull through from other dimensions already, so I wonder if you have had any experience of a shift on that level?..and of course I would LOVE for you to repost whatever you like and to be interviewed! Email me at lameditation [at] earthlink [dot] net. XO

  11. March 9, 2012 2:57 pm

    Jan, thank you and I’m glad you shared what it’s like to be closer to the ‘other side’ of this shift…I have felt the growing power in you as a writer and teacher even in just the few years I have known you, and so can see the ways that being forged by the fire has manifested for you I think…from an energetic perspective this is what fascinates me – there has been a lot of talk in recent years about menopause as the transition into the crone/wise-woman phase that it is meant to be, but what I see in women who have traveled it intensely as a spiritual passage is that their ability to transmit light through them, as an energetic conduit, is really amazing…that is another piece perhaps, but lots of fascinating examples (including some from history that I have written about on my Women Mystics page – Sun Buer, Sukhasiddha, etc.)…so there is an powerful energetic shifts that occurs as well, but it actually requires letting go of the physical body in a way, and I think that is part of what perimenopause does for us…

  12. March 9, 2012 3:02 pm

    Melinda – we must have been writing at the same time (in my case, before my kids get up, lol). I’m glad this resonated for you, and yes the monthly energetic cycle you describe is exactly what women through the ages have discovered, and is linked to how our second chakra functions. So wonderful that you can feel those so clearly. It’s hard in today’s world to honor it, but we can all find ways I think. Good luck with both your conception efforts and cooking in the fire! I find mothering young children while in this phase means they are such a part of the learning and triggering process…each of my children contributes so directly to my own self-awareness and yes triggers me in a unique way…of course that is always true, but perhaps I am more aware of it now then I would have been…

  13. March 9, 2012 3:08 pm

    thanks so much for that lovely response…I should be clear…I didn’t actually write much about Kali…but borrowed from another writer to share that day…

    you’ve given me additional info to think about…lots I’d not heard of before about my cycle…and it’s something I definitely need to come to understand more deeply.

    thank you.

  14. March 9, 2012 5:48 pm

    hi lisa, i have to say it’s been a very bumpy ride for me. i’m perimenopausal, turning 50 this year. no hot flashes yet…i am going through many changes psycho-spiritually, including growing kundalini and then it dropping off again. also finally facing the need to slow down and experience my life due to health issues that cropped up enough to get my attention. i think you could say i’m in the burning in my own way–burning off what is no longer needed in my ego structures so that i can become more completly Who i am. it’s not simple or predictable or comfotable a lot of the time, but i am deeply grateful for the expansion and growth and joy that are part of this surrender.

    blessings for all this beautiful and meaningful work you do in the world, katy

  15. March 9, 2012 6:00 pm

    Had a big laugh at your kids’ reactions.

    I know yours isn’t an astrology article, but you’ll forgive me for putting in my astro worth. 😉

    Just something worth noting, for anyone interested, is that these astro happenings, like Uranus Opposition, will be different according to location.
    For example, mine occurs at age 41 IF I had stayed at my place of birth. As it is, mine (the pinnacle) is not occurring until I’m 43.
    It really makes me wonder about energetics and location. Like, for one, if there are energetic anomalies to moving from birthplace.

    “our 40s are associated with, and this is a natural rising of the kundalini energy, particularly the red kundalini from our root up through each of our chakras as it attempts to push through any blocks it encounters.”

    It makes me think of how many people tend towards crisis at these ages. In our modern societies that is. How many blocks we create, or remain unmindful of, how much we refuse to deal with. That it creates a bottle-neck effect – everything coming to ahead in these ages.

    As far as personal experience goes, I feel I have been going through the astro changes in the last 2 years! I do wonder what will occur when I start experiencing obvious peri-menopausal signs? 🙂

    It seems that if menopause is seen through the lens of energetic transformation, it is a much more positive experience to forward to.

  16. March 9, 2012 8:31 pm

    Katy – thanks for sharing. I do think health issues often crop at this time in particular to get our attention, and hopefully as we burn through the related issues they resolve. Of course aging causes its own changes too and acceptance of these is part of the process too I think – to not define ourselves by our bodies.

    Mon – yes, thx for bringing that up, I was loose on the timing, just giving the average – my own was actually closer to 42/43…in her book Clow is using an 18-month range average for each transit (same for the Saturn return, which is when I first found this book – the first part is about Saturn return, she connects these three life transits) – about 9 months before and after the main opposition, and that will be longer or shorter depending on whether and how long each planet goes retro, so someone does need to look it up to know exactly for…but what’s interesting is that these two later transits really ‘book-end’ what we think of as mid-life, and for women, they tie to perimenopause…hormonal studies have shown most women are already experiencing hormonal shifts up to 10 years before their actual menopause date, even with no symptoms (and some women never have symptoms) so for us, the two coincide – which is really HUGE when you think of it…

  17. March 10, 2012 12:51 am

    Happy Birthday Lisa!!! Your article really resonates with me. As I’ve shared with you before, I felt like I had a kundalini awakening experience in France a year and a half ago just after I turned 40. That makes a lot more sense now. The spiritual growth and kundalini awareness continues to burn for me as well as I look at things that come up and release them. It’s just so reassuring to know that I am not the only one going through this and that it’s all part of the plan. Thank you for putting together this article. It helps a lot. Now I’m going to go share it on Facebook so my friends can all enjoy it too! ;>)

  18. March 10, 2012 3:04 pm

    Lisa, I’ll be in touch within a week or so with some interview questions. Looking forward to doing this guest blog post!

  19. March 10, 2012 4:39 pm

    Melinda – yes, it is really amazing how many women do experience something along those lines in their early 40s. For some it is subtler, it all depends on the person and circumstances. Either way, it really sets the stage for our 40s to be about integrating this experience, and clearing the way within each chakra – tied to the life themes of those chakras – for the kundalini to come through our bodies and full beings on a new level. This opens up all sorts of spiritual and occult gifts and abilities. It is really like the wattage of a lightbulb being increased.

  20. March 12, 2012 8:45 pm

    Just got to reading this, Lisa. First, happy belated birthday! Second, thanks for this marvelous look at this important time in life. Very relevant for me right now–and so well written I’ve posted it on my public page FB wall. Thanks!

  21. March 13, 2012 3:55 am

    Meryl, good to see you here, and I’m glad it resonated for you. It seems like every women I know feels like they are burning in the fire right now, so I think there are larger forces at work too, even beyond mid life!

  22. March 13, 2012 7:33 am

    Happy Birthday Lisa. I am 46 today and have recently been experiencing a shift in mind, body and the world around me. I enjoyed reading your post. And to Melinda. Yes. There are plenty of women in their forties trying to conceive. And succeeding! I had my little boy when I was almost 42. He is the light of my life but I wonder how I will cope with menopause, a young child and an elderly mother. Not to mention a difficult partner!

  23. March 13, 2012 5:58 pm

    Hi Claire, Happy Birthday! And glad this resonated. I get the worries about handling menopause and motherhood along with everything else. I recently realized that if I hit menopause at the average age I will have three tweens/teens at the same time – a perfect storm of emotional drama:-)

  24. March 14, 2012 6:47 am

    Love what your kids said! heheeeee! Children do keep us real don’t they?

    This post reminded me that despite the challenges and griefs involved in getting older, that there is much to be excited about being in my 40’s. And there’s a dearth of available material aimed at women that is other than the usual blather about how to look younger and dress your age : p How often are we reminded of the power we are stepping into and experiencing in our bodies, not as aging and less appealing, but as energetically fertile and pregnant with power? Am I getting a bit too enthusiastic here? hehe.

    So much of what you say here about staying the fire, allowing what is uncomfortable to rise to the surface; also the rise in kundalini energy, and being remade and transformed…all of this feels like an undeniable, unstoppable tidal flow to me as I enter this phase of life. That there is a momentum that’s gathering force whether I accept it or not, so when once I slightly dreaded facing certain things, now I’m keen to embrace this shift – even the instability and discomfort, because it does feel creative and full of potential.

    Not feeling the perimenopause yet, but this can be a gradual and subtle process, so who knows. However, I certainly relate to this: “Relationships and boundaries that we thought we had all figured out suddenly don’t seem to be working anymore”. My word yes. So much more I could rant about but this is already a veeery long comment.

    I’m going to read your post again when I need inspiration or a morale boost! Because it is exciting! Thankyou.

  25. March 14, 2012 3:35 pm

    Hi Antoinette, I’m glad it struck you this way, because I actually was feeling excited as I wrote it. There is something a teacher once told me that I wish I had included in this post, but didn’t think of it until reading your comment. He said that there’s two paths to aging – in one case we are so focused on the changes in our body and its perceived decline that our power declines with it, because we have linked our awareness to that. The other way is to link our awareness to our energetic field, the interface to spirit, and if we do that, we increase in personal power through our connection to Source as our body ages.

    I think that is really what this perimenopause/midlife shift is about – we make a choice as to what we are going to link our awareness and identity too, and that largely defines how we will age. And of course there’s talk now of ‘male menopause’ too, as they do go through physical and hormonal shifts, but for women it is so pronounced, and so loaded because it is linked to our fertility.

  26. Anonymous permalink
    March 16, 2012 3:33 am

    Lisa, I now this is a little late, but Happy Birthday! I’m not surprised your birthday fell on International Women’s Day, Sanga Day, or the March Full Moon! I’m turning 39 this April, so this post is quite timely.

  27. Kaveri permalink
    March 16, 2012 3:34 am

    Oops, that was me above.

  28. March 16, 2012 3:56 pm

    Hi Kaveri, good to see you here, and happy early 39!!

  29. March 25, 2012 7:34 pm

    Hi Lisa:

    I nominated you for a “Very Inspiring Blogger Award”.

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  30. April 1, 2012 10:49 am

    Thank you for writing this. I am only 31, but I feel as though the last couple of years have been absolutely transformative, to the degree of shifting career paths, ending a relationship with my child’s father, living a very very modest lifestyle in service to the Goddess and the transformations I’m experiencing on a spiritual level. I have to admit I’m excited for my 40s — I sense that this will be a powerful time for me. But I am ever so curious to learn more about the 30s and what it should mean for most on a spiritual level. ~ Juliana

  31. April 2, 2012 3:59 pm

    Hi Juliana, sounds like a lot has been going on for you. As you may know, another major astrological life transit happens in your late 20s, the Saturn Return, usually in your 29th year, but the exact timing depends on your chart – because Saturn went retrograde alot around the degree of my own, it actually went into my 30th year. So it sounds like a lot of your life changes have been tied to your Saturn return, or the aftermath of it. The Saturn return is like a karmic return – in spiritual traditions it’s read as a karmic ‘choicepoint’, where we decide what this lifetime is going to be about (or are forced into it!) – of the various karmas that are active in our being, what is going to be the dominant patterns/lessons we are dealing with? And then our 30s are often about working through that…which from a spiritual perspective sets us up for the full owning of our power and creativity in our 40s (not that we can’t be creative in our 30s, it may very well be part of our most important karmas…) So that is a brief view of my take on it:-)

  32. November 4, 2014 4:55 am

    Reblogged this on Mommy Mystic and commented:

    I have received many questions about mid-life kundalini transits recently, and so felt that was a sign I should reblog this post. Also please note that the final edition of Meditate Like a Girl published this week, and includes the last of my posts in the 12-chakra meditation series I had been doing there – ‘YOU as a Chakra’, with a free guided meditation. You can get to that by clicking on the link in the sidebar after reading this post. Namaste-

  33. November 5, 2014 1:14 am

    This is such a good read and I shall share it to my facebook page tomorrow. I am now 52. I believe I started peri-menopause at 42. So, it has been an intense 10 years. Like a Volcano that simmers, constantly oozing out all the burned up gunk. I had quite a few eruptions during these last 10 years, but I do think it was more of a simmering concoction of energy surfacing, letting go, moving on, surfacing again, moving on and on & on it goes. I do feel I am at the end of it now. I haven’t had a period for about 3 months and for some reason I don’t feel they will be returning. (I am ready to move on from mother stage into my crone years). I feel so much more at peace now. I had no idea I had so much shit inside me! But the feeling I have now of contentment, purity, cleanliness, clarity, wisdom, grace, openness, strength, creativity, playfulness, enthusiasm, self love, self belief & freedom. And..I even think my sex drive has returned!! To be where I am now, I can honestly say, the last 10 years have been worth it.
    I feel fresher. I now call myself an artist. I am so much more creative than I have ever been. My days are filled with creativity of all kinds. My life is so much more simpler. Everything has been stripped right back & I see what’s important and what’s not. My connection to myself, my husband & nature is stronger than ever. I still need to work with family…there is always something. But even that I handle with divine grace and don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is so precious. Mid-life can be really tough, but as long as you don’t fight it, go with the flow, get to understand yourself, your body, your emotions then it becomes absolutely life changing.
    I beg anyone who is going through it. Don’t run away from it. Don’t be swayed by masking your feelings with anti-depressants or H.R.T. Go the holistic highway! Try all the natural therapies that you are drawn to. It’s a holy new world out there. I am pleased & proud to say that I never once took the pharmaceutical path. Healing modalities that helped me and still do: Yoga, meditation, Reiki, Naturopathy, Acupuncture, chiropractor, osteopath. I eat healthy, I practice yoga & meditation daily & I Reiki myself often. I feel blessed to be where I am today considering what I have been through. The old saying, “Life begins at 40” is so true…maybe 40ish, but you will know when you walk through the door of mid-life. Just don’t turn back…keep going. It will all be worth it. I assure you. xx Namaste, Chez.

  34. November 5, 2014 1:21 am

    One of my favorite posts, Lisa! And Cheryl and I have news for all of you. I am 58 and it continues, perhaps not as often, but just as intense. And my mom is 78 and it still happens for her, too.

  35. November 11, 2014 6:28 pm

    Chez, thanks so much for sharing your story.

  36. November 11, 2014 6:32 pm

    Hi Cate, yes, kundalini transits happen our entire life. They are just particularly strong and spontaneous at certain phases, and perimenopause is one of them. They are more likely to happen for people who are not doing formal practices to trigger them during this time, women especially, and then if a woman opens to their potential, they can continue on and on. But 20 year olds who go through spontaneous kundalini bursts have many of the same experiences as well. It really is a universal experience, part of being human, but anyone who has not been exposed to Eastern yoga teachings before experiencing them often doesn’t realize what is happening. That’s why I am glad people like you are helping to spread the word outside of formal kundalini traditions:-)


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