April in Review
A bit late on this, but I wanted to keep it going. Again, the idea and format for these reviews is from Mon at Holistic Mama, so go check out the others participating!
This month was really about finding my voice, on this blog and elsewhere, and continuing to contemplate a new direction I feel brewing. I sense there’s still a few months of ‘transition’ time before I will really see clearly on this.
Vacation in my beloved Canyon Country, which led to a post on Nature Mysticism, and then the haiku I found for that post led to the post on Art and Mysticism, and to an article on Zen Haiku for BellaOnline.
Ladybugs and snails – with spring here the kids are obsessed with both, and luckily we’ve found lots outside for them to look at.
Akashic Record Reading – For my birthday in March, I had a strong intuition to request an Akashic record reading with Akemi at Yes To Me. It caught me by surprise because I haven’t been much interested in such a reading before, and the tradition it stems from is very different from my own background. But the reading was done in April, and was exactly what I needed. I feel that the 2nd Chakra Series I just finished was a direct result of it.
My husband was out of town for 4 days. Discovered I am not cut out to be a single mother of three preschoolers. The level of energy required is just unfathomable (see Slice of Home below for a glimpse.) Hubby feeling very appreciated about now.
Parenting a four-year old has been heady business lately. Here’s some of what we’ve been dealing with:
Gender Discrimination: She saw the DVD Mulan, Disney’s Chinese warrior-princess movie, at the library and wanted to rent it. She’s been saying she wants to go to China ever since a classmate’s grandfather did a presentation on Chinese New Year at her preschool, so (despite my general dislike of Disney princess movies) I said yes. It’s about a young Chinese woman who disguises herself as a man to join the army, in part to escape an arranged marriage by her parents and in part to save her family’s honor because they have no son that can go. The whole message is supposed to be ‘girls can do anything boys can do.’ But of course that only needs to be said if you’ve ever heard anything different, which my daughter has not. So the entire thing sent her into gender-processing overdrive, with questions like ‘Why doesn’t she want to get married?’, ‘Why does she have to dress up like a boy to be in the army?’, and ‘Why won’t her friends listen to her anymore when they find out she’s a girl? I did the best I could, using the general ‘this was a long time ago in China when people were ignorant’ approach. But she still doesn’t want to go to China anymore. I guess I’ll wait to tell her most of the world wasn’t – and much still isn’t – any better.
Conformity – We got in the car for school and I noticed she had two different shoes on. After a bit of back and forth about who should go in the house to get a matching shoe, she finally said ‘Why do my shoes have to match anyway?’ A very good question, for which I did not have a very good answer. And since I have vowed to have reasons for the things I ask of my kids, I let her wear the mismatched shoes. But (and I’m still not sure I should have done this) I took the other two shoes with us and put them in her cubby. Sure enough, when I picked her up she had a matching set on. She said she ‘got tired of everyone asking her why her shoes didn’t match.’
I didn’t say much to my daughter on the shoe issue, and am still chewing on this one in general, but it did remind me of something I once heard Gangaji say, along the lines of: “Lots of people fear spiritual communities because they are worried about cults, about being taken advantage of, or being controlled. But you’re already in a cult. It’s called SOCIETY. A true spiritual journey helps you break free of all your limiting conditioning. Which is not the same thing as rebelling against it.”
I thought this was beautiful, I guess it’s been around awhile, but I was reminded of it at 100 Musical Footsteps. All of these dancers are hearing-impaired:
Let’s count the Gangaji quote above for this section shall we? These are supposed to be brief, an art I haven’t perfected yet!
Favourite Tip/Idea from web
Ditto here, I’m running out of steam! But I did update my blogroll this month, so check out some of those if you haven’t already.
Slice of home
6 minutes at our house: