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Mischief and Wisdom – Finding Your Way in the Year of the Monkey

February 1, 2016
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The Year of the Red Fire Monkey is a year of movement and passion.

We are well on our way into the New Year according to the solar Western calendar, but the lunar New Year, which includes both the Chinese and Tibetan New Years, don’t begin until February 8th. We are heading into the Year of the Red Fire Monkey, and as has become tradition, I’m offering my own look at the symbology of the monkey throughout history in different cultures, along with an intuitive read of how to navigate the year’s energies. We are most certainly already seeing monkey-like energies in world events (think stock market and U.S. elections!) There’s one thing for sure – on both a personal and societal level, it won’t be boring.

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Monkeys are known for their playfulness, agility, and speed.

Throughout the world, monkeys are known for their high energy, playfulness, agility, and intelligence, and that is reflected in the energies associated with a Monkey year. This is a year for taking chances, shaking things up, and getting out of your comfort zone. Risk is often rewarded in monkey years, but (and this is a big but) it has to be considered risk, wise risk, not blind or wholly wishful. That is a hard line to discern sometimes, because we are all filled with projections, hopes, and dreams. Finding the balance between taking a chance and being foolhardy is the key to navigating monkey energies.

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Mayan Howler monkey god, linked to the arts and music, on the side of the Coban temple

Creativity is linked to the monkey in several different cultures, including the ancient Mayans, who depicted twin Howler Monkey gods as linked to the arts and music. The creativity of the monkey is linked to the ‘how’ rather than to inspiration – the technical challenge of how to create a particular vision, or manifest a dream. This is a year to act, and to experiment with different approaches until you find what works. Give yourself time to tinker, to learn as you go, and to modify your plans as you proceed. This is not the time for waiting to act until you have the perfect plan in place – no matter what you do, things are unlikely to go as planned. But you can learn in the middle of it all – monkey energy is nimble and adaptable.

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Thoth depicted as both an Ibis and a baboon

This is also a year for innovation, in technology and science. The Ancient Egyptian god Thoth, who ruled both, had two depictions – one as an Ibis and one as a baboon. It may well be a turning point year in terms of technological innovations to address some of the world’s problems, and in your own life, innovation will also be rewarded. However, monkey energy is known for something else too – mischievousness. Innovation just for its own sake, with no larger purpose,  can cause more harm than good. And on the personal level, upheaval just for the sake of it is often a means of escape, and can cause much damage. Don’t make changes just to do it –  try to discern if they are aligned with your own, and others’, highest good.

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Ancient Egyptian statue of Thoth in Baboon form, from the British museum

Thoth is also linked to balance and equilibrium, and in fact throughout Africa, the baboon is linked to wisdom. Symbolically throughout the world, we see this paradox of monkeys representing both mischief and wisdom – a lower and higher self, you might say. Inner equilibrium is key to finding your high expression of the monkey energies – one in which agility, playfulness, intelligence and creativity are used to manifest a reality in alignment with Source. In the midst of all the fast-moving activity and change, make sure you are continually turning inward, to check in and assess. Otherwise, you may fall prey to the more opportunistic sides of yourself and/or others.

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In the Thai story pictured here, a well-meaning monkey offers Buddha a honeycomb, but the Buddha asks him to return it to the bees.

Stories featuring monkeys are prevalent in Buddhism, and one of my favorites highlights another key monkey energy – the ability to learn. In a well-known Thai story, an elephant is said to roll a favorite boulder of the Buddha’s daily to the river to wash and cool it, and then roll it back to the Buddha’s favorite sitting spot to warm in the sun in time for him to use it in the afternoon. Seeing this, a monkey who also wishes to show his devotion to the Buddha decides to break off a piece of honeycomb from a local hive, and offer it to the Buddha. The Buddha recognizes the monkey is well-intentioned, but explains to him that removing the honeycomb will harm the bees, and asks him to place it back near the hive. The monkey is moved to a new compassion for the bees, and finds other ways to express his devotion to Buddha.

Like the monkey in this story, we are capable of learning from our mistakes, and of rising into a higher expression of ourselves when we are open to doing so. Whenever you take risks there will be some mistakes, and the key to navigating mistakes this year is to learn from them. Embrace each seeming setback as feedback, and come at your goal another way, based on what you have learned.

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The Elephant, Monkey, Hare, and Bird – a story of cooperation

Another defining monkey trait is that of their sociability. Monkeys, like humans, are communal creatures. Both the negative and positive power of human sociability, especially as expressed through social media, will no doubt be on full display this year. Again, a popular Buddhist story featuring a monkey provides some guidance on how to manifest the positive side of community. In this story, an elephant, monkey, hare, and bird are all required to work together in order to harvest a fruit tree for their own survival. Each animal uses a physical ability unique to them to accomplish a key task related to the tree’s care and harvesting. Without any one of them, the tree would not survive.

True cooperation – the highest expression of our social nature – involves a mutual recognition and respect of others’ differences and strengths. When we are able to work in this way, nothing can stop us. When we can’t, we are our own worst enemy, mired in jealousy, fear, and conflict.

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Monkey mother and baby, by Japanese Artist Mori Sosen, Edo Era

Another key aspect of monkeys’ social nature is reflected in monkey mothers – they are among the most nurturing and protective in the animal kingdom. They spend hours grooming, cuddling, teaching, and protecting their young, and are devastated at their loss. This maternal energy is something that lies within all of us, and is also a powerful  counterbalance to the less savory aspects of monkey energy. Love is the best compass. When in doubt, ask yourself ‘which is the most loving choice?’ in relation to others, and you can rarely go wrong.

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In the Jataka Tales, the Monkey King forms a bridge with his body to save his fellow monkeys from attack by humans

These themes of monkey love and wisdom come together in one final Buddhist monkey story that I’d like to share, the Jataka tale The Monkey King. In this story, a monkey king stretches himself into a bridge that his monkey subjects use to escape an attacking human king. In doing so, the monkey king exhausts himself, and is captured by the invading king. However, the human king is so moved by the monkey king’s selflessness that he spares the monkey king, and a new alliance is formed.

A main risk of fast-paced, smart, alluring monkey energy is self-absorption. We see this all the time in how social media is often used in our culture – a perfect expression of unenlightened monkey energy. But when we tap into selflessness – based in caring, not martyrdom or self-immolation – there’s no telling what this passionate, creative energy can accomplish.

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Traditional Hindu depiction of Hanuman with Rama and Sita revealed in his heart

This aspect of monkey symbology perhaps reaches its highest expression in that of Hanuman, the Hindu monkey god. The most well-known portrayal of Hanuman is in the Ramayana, an epic Sanskrit poem telling the story of the Indian God Rama. The Ramayana is viewed as depicting the ideals in Hindu relationship – the ideal brother, wife, husband etc. Hanuman is Rama’s devoted friend, protector, and warrior. His devotion to Rama is unmatched.

What does it truly mean to be devoted, in a spiritual sense? To give ourselves over to love to such an extent that we are moved beyond our normal limitations. This kind of devotion is a powerful force, and we have to choose wisely where we place it. What in your life is worthy of your devotion? Do you have something? If so, are you all in? Or is  your devotion misplaced? If that’s the case, now is the time to pull back, before harm is done.

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Traditional Thai depiction of the warrior aspect of Hanuman

Hanuman is also known for his bravery in battle. The boundary-pushing nature of monkey energy is bound to generate resistance, and we will no doubt see that on both a social and personal level this year. Humans naturally resist change. Sometimes we even resist it when we’ve set it in motion ourselves! What gets us through is courage, and often what is most needed is the courage to face the parts of ourselves holding us back, or keeping us mired in our less desirable attributes. In some Hindu sects, Hanuman is said to be the only god one may pray to when faced with evil or obscuring energies. His courage and faithfulness can withstand dark forces.

In the same way, let bravery and devotion guide you through any obscuring forces you encounter – inside or outside yourself.

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Famous ‘Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil, See No Evil’ depiction on temple in Nikko, Japan

Another famous depiction of monkeys linking them to cutting through dark forces is found carved on a temple in Nikko – ‘Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil, See No Evil’. This piece isn’t meant to advocate repression or sticking our head in the sand. Instead it’s meant to represent our power of choice. We can choose what we put out into the world, and what in the world we connect with and propagate. Monkey years are intense and energetic times, full of possibility and potential. Most likely, whether you feel ready for it or not, change is coming. You won’t be able to control all of it, but you can control your response. Will you respond from the lower monkey expressions of fear, self-absorption, opportunism, or mischievousness? Or will you come from a place of wisdom, selflessness, devotion, and bravery? The choice is yours. And on a social level, ours.

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Wishing you much joy, wisdom, equanimity and love as you traverse your Monkey Year!

Enlightened Pregnancy and the Bardos – Interview with Luisa Magarian

January 19, 2016

EnlightenedPregnancyFor my first post of 2016, I thought it apropos to go back to the beginning – the beginning of our lives, and of all life. I had the pleasure of interviewing Luisa Magarian, author of Enlightened Pregnancy: Connecting with Your Baby Spiritually. This book offers expecting mothers and their family members a way to connect and guide the spirit of their baby during pregnancy. It is based on teachings presented within the Tibetan Book of the Dead on how a spirit transits from life to life. Even if you are not pregnant or planning to be so, you will find this interview fascinating, especially if these teachings are new to you.

luisamagarianLuisa has studied meditation and mindfulness since 2002 and taught since 2008. Although American, she spent many summers in a highland Mayan town in Guatamala, and was recognized there as an iyoom, or sacred Mayan midwife. She also has degrees in Human Biology and Latin American Studies from Stanford.

Here is an excerpted version of my interview with her; the full interview is available as an mp3 at the end of the post.

 So first Luisa, I was wondering if you could describe Enlightened Pregnancy in your own words?

 Sure. Enlightened Pregnancy is a little book for expecting parents to help them connect with their baby, even before their baby is born, at a spiritual level. It contains poems, meditation exercises, and visualizations, among other things, to tap into your own deeply spiritual essence, and use that to guide your baby through his/her experience in the womb.

Thank you, I love it. I got interested in the energetics of pregnancy when I was pregnant, and how it impacts us energetically and spiritually as women, but this really focuses on the mother’s state of mind and through that on helping the baby through this transit, which I find really fascinating. How did you get the idea for this book?

 The idea started with a conversation between myself and my co-author Samvara a number of years ago. At the point that this idea came up, we were both using meditation and mindfulness in support of people facing serious illness and end of life, and found that these were really helpful tools. We started thinking about other times in life when people are going through big transitions, and how these same tools could be really beneficial. Pregnancy came to mind as the next obvious transition to focus on. We started exploring what is out there in terms of pregnancy and meditation and mindfulness, and specifically what was available in Tibetan Buddhism, and bringing these together.

And what led you to focus on the Tibetan Book of the Dead? Could you explain that book a bit for people that are not familiar with it?

 The Tibetan Book of the Dead is a fascinating book, it’s actually one of the most famous and well regarded books in Tibetan Buddhism. What it has in it is a really detailed study of what the spirit goes through at the end of life and afterwards. In the Tibetan worldview, life is cyclical, it is not linear in the way we often think of it, with a beginning, middle, and end. Each life flows into another life through reincarnation. In between lives there is a period of time when the spirit is not in a body, but in a dreamlike existence in between. Tibetan Buddhists have made a very detailed study of this in between time.

What we noticed is that that time – after one life and before the next – we often talk about it when thinking about a loved one who has recently passed away, but it’s also the exact same period of time a being is going through before entering a new life. It’s where, in the Tibetan worldview, the spirits of new babies are coming from. So we decided to look at that text and see what parts of it would be pertinent to pregnancy.

Yes, and you utilize that Tibetan knowledge as a framework to help a woman and her family to guide their baby towards birth. Since you also have a background as a Mayan iyoom [sacred midwife], how did that influence, or did it influence, the work and how you approached it?

It influenced the work more from a background perspective. It has deeply influenced me throughout my life. The content of the book closely follows the Tibetan Book of the Dead in terms of the period of time that corresponds to pregnancy. But having spent this time as a child in this Mayan town, and having close relationships with several of the iyooms in town, what I learned from them is that pregnancy and birth is inherently a sacred time. It is a time when women tap into deeper parts of themselves. So that understanding really cleaved into this book, if not in its words, then in its undertone.

Yes, and we don’t really get that perspective in this culture during pregnancy. Books like What to Expect When You’re Expecting are all about preparing for when the baby is here already, or for the physical birth. There isn’t a sense of bringing a spirit into incarnation, which is part of what’s going on, as part of the pregnancy process.

Yes, and what I’m hearing from women who have read this book is that they are having these experiences already during pregnancy, it’s just not something that we really talk about or focus on, but it’s still part of our experience of pregnancy and taking care of small children. So part of the goal of this book is bringing it more into the forefront of our consciousness.

Yes, and giving us a framework. So in the Tibetan Book of the Dead and Enlightened Pregnancy the idea of a bardo is really central. How would you explain the idea of a bardo to someone not familiar with it?

 A bardo is a state of existence. In the Tibetan worldview there’s this state of existence in between lives, called an intermediate state or bardo. There’s a particular one that a spirit lives in between conception and birth called the sidpa bardo, and that’s what Enlightened Pregnancy is really focusing on – that time period.

You can think of a bardo like a dream, that’s really the most similar thing we can compare it to in our own experience. So you can imagine that when you are dreaming, part of your mind and your spirit are in your body and your bed, but part of your mind and spirit are off having wild adventures. Sometimes they are fun, sometimes they are beautiful, sometimes they are confusing or scary. A bardo can be very similar for a baby in the womb – the body is there, the mind and spirit are kind of there, but the mind and spirit are also having these experiences in the bardo.

So how is the mother – or any family member reading this book to the baby – helping the spirit?

So each poem in the book is describing an aspect of the bardo that a being would typically experience. Through the imagery of the poem the person reading it, as well as the baby they are reading it for, gets a clearer picture. You know how sometimes a dream can be kind of confusing and overwhelming? You’re running around really fast, and things like that – imagine if you suddenly had a map, and you could choose where to go because you can see more clearly. That’s what the poems are designed to provide – guideposts for the spirit of the baby as it goes through these experiences.

What’s so fascinating with the guided meditations , and the various methods of centering that you include, is that it really requires the reader to shift into a more awakened or clear place in order to help guide the baby, so it really is this spiritual process for the mother or reader too.

 I thought it was interesting that you say in the book that any family member could participate in the reading and exercises. How does that work?

 I imagine most of the time it will be the mother reading the book, but I know fathers will be interested in it too. I’ve actually read it for four of my nieces and nephews. Each time I’ve done that, even if they were across the country, I could feel a connection with that spirit from far away. It was a beautiful experience for me, and I trust that it’s provided some benefit for them as well.

That’s beautiful! Do you think adoptive parents waiting for a child could potentially use this same process?

Oh absolutely. I think that could be a really beautiful experience for adoptive parents, especially because it would be a structured way of connecting with the baby before they get to meet it….Adoptive parents often have less ability to support the baby in utero than if they were carrying it themselves. They can’t choose what to eat for example. But they could support their baby’s spirit in this way.

What other advice do you have for expecting parents from a spiritual perspective?

I think noticing what you are feeling at the level of your spirit. Connecting into your heart on a day to day basis, and really honoring whatever you are noticing.

I’m hoping for people who read this book, that since it contains so many different flavors of meditation practices, that they will find at least one in there that really resonates, really feels wonderful to them. And since each of the practices tend to be pretty brief – you can do them in 1-5 minutes – that they will continue to practice even after reading the book, and maintain a practice after birth. That they will continue to connect to spirit, connect to the divine, in whatever way that manifests for them.

Thank you Luisa, for both this beautiful offering, and for speaking with me.

 You can listen to the entire interview streaming here:

Or download here (allow the file to open and begin playing, and then ‘Save As’:

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P.S. Thank you to everyone who participated in my Winter Solstice telemeditation and donation drive for The Breathe Network, and in the New Years book giveaway. I will be back in 2 weeks with my annual symbology reading of the Chinese/Tibetan New Year – we head into the Year of the Monkey February 8th! Also, don’t forget that soon after I will be starting my Chakra Levels teleseminar, based on the series I ran here last year. We will focus on a personal pattern you are striving to change. I hope many of you will join me!

New Year’s Gratitude Book GIVEAWAY!

December 23, 2015

bookoflightThe end of the year is upon us, and as always I am very grateful for YOU, my readers, clients, and course participants. I feel very honored to share this spiritual journey that we are all on with you, and to be allowed to play a role in your healing, empowerment and awakening process, and to receive from you in return. Many times when I myself am feeling low, I receive an email or comment from someone sharing a breakthrough they have experienced, and my own faith in our innate self-healing abilities and spiritual nature is reinforced. Truly, the potential to heal the world lies within each of us, and your bravery, compassion, and commitment to spirit inspires me every day.

I also appreciate all of your shares and likes of posts here (especially on Facebook which I cannot track individually but can see the impact of in my stats.) The internet is full of dark places and connections, but it is also full of light and love-filled ones, and I’m happy we are all able to connect here. I am not able to spend as much time social networking or commenting on blogs as I once did, but this blog still holds a special place in my heart, as do many of yours.

Books have always been a huge part of my path – indeed my first posts here were book reviews and interviews with authors, and I was first exposed to all of my major teachers and mentors through their books. For that reason, a few years ago I initiated a New Years’ Book Giveaway. Every year, I select three of my favorite books published during the year that relate to the themes of this blog, and give one copy of each away through a comment lottery.

To be entered to win, please comment with a wish for the world in 2016. The wish may be for the entire world, or one sub group (or species!) within it. As you hit ‘post’, align your intent with your wish and send it out into the world from your heart as you send it out to the internet with your click. Be sure to enter your email address so that I may contact you (although that will only show for me.) You don’t have to use your real name, that’s up to you.

On Monday, January 4th I will write down all of the emails on slips of paper, put them in a bowl, and my three children will each draw one out. You get whatever book I draw for (trust the universe on that) but you can select whether you would like a Kindle or print copy if you win.

Before I reveal the books I am giving out this year, I have a few ‘honorary mentions’ of books that I considered giving away that I would like to mention here:

Breakfast with Buddha, by Roland Merullo – part of a spiritual fiction trilogy (Lunch with Buddha, Dinner with Buddha) that combines road trips to sacred spots around the U.S. with spiritual teachings (Dinner with Buddha was released this year, the first two are older, but you would want to start with Breakfast.)

Enlightened Pregnancy: Connecting with Your Baby Spiritually, by Luisa Magarian – meditations and contemplations based on the Tibetan Book of the Dead to help a pregnant woman (and/or supporting partner or family members) connect with her baby on a spiritual level as he/she traverses the bardos.

Advanced Path: Guideposts on the Radiant Path to Liberation and Beyond, by Mu – lyrical verses to guide you on the path to awakening – or rather, to help you connect with your own inner guidance. A powerful vibration and pure wisdom radiate from this little book.

Rising Strong, by Brene Brown, social scientist and author of Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection writes wonderfully on the art of growing through mistakes, failures, and tragedy, backing up her insights with both research and real-life examples gleaned from interviews of many people. She doesn’t settle for feel-good positivity, but focuses on what works.

And here (drumroll) are the three books I’ve selected for this year’s giveaway (remember you can’t pick which you win, although you can pick Kindle or print):

ChakraYogaChakra Yoga, by Anodea Judith

A wonderful book complete with pictures on yoga asanas and related breathing and meditation practices linked to the chakras, by a reknowned pscyhologist and chakra author Anodea Judith.

 

BouncingForwardBouncing Forward: Transforming Bad Breaks into Breakthroughs, by Michaela Haas

A wonderful book on post-traumatic growth, based in both research and interviews of Maya Angelou,  jazz legend and Auschwitz survivor Coco Schumann, Brigadier General and first Iraq war prisoner Rhonda Cornum, animal behaviorist and autistic author Temple Grandin, co-founder of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) Cindi Lamb, and several more.

BigMagicBig Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, by Elizabeth Gilbert

Latest from the author of Eat, Pray, Love, this is a beautifully written and inspiring book on what it means to open beyond your fears and invite creativity to move through you. Although she focuses a lot on writing as a creative outlet, this book is really for anyone and everyone.

 

So please leave a comment with your wish for the world below, send it out with intent, and check back on January 4th for the winners! Allow yourself the potential to receive!

Happy holidays and New Year to you. Wishing you much love and light. Namaste

Bitch or Witch? Fears That Keep Us From Owning Our Power

December 11, 2015
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If we enter into the Winter Solstice and New Years’ transit with conscious intent, we naturally move deep within ourselves. Afterwards we emerge from our inner cave into the light, transformed and empowered. What is your intent? What new power will you bring forth for 2016? What is holding you back?

Please join me for a free (donation optional) Winter Solstice energy work teleseminar on Sunday December 20th at 5pm PST. A recording will be available for those not able to participate live. Register at my website or by commenting on this post (include your email address, although that will not display), and I will send call-in details next week. Proceeds will benefit The Breathe Network.

Some posts come easily and others do not. I began working on this one soon after my last post – almost 2 months ago – but it never felt quite right. After the world events of this Fall, many other topics rose to the top of my attention, and I felt a deep need to write something relevant, something that would speak to and about the forces at work around and within all of us at this time. I was never quite able to do so.

Finally, as Winter Solstice neared, I realized this original post – on two of the main challenges women face to owning our power – was exactly what I wanted to write about right now. Energetically, Winter Solstice is a time of moving inward, contemplating and surfacing blocks and next steps, so that we may emerge on the other side newly empowered and inspired. There are so many variations on the abuse of power in the news these days that it’s especially important to really explore what power is, and what it means to manifest it positively.

Power is often an uncomfortable topic for spiritual seekers, especially women. We are much more comfortable talking about compassion, lovingkindness, and even wisdom. But power is central to the spiritual path; in fact, one could even say power is what it’s all about – allowing the ultimate power of the universe, the essence of which we are all composed, to flow through us naturally, unhindered, so that our unique expression of it may be known and felt in the world.

If we look at all of recorded human history, it’s clear that the rise of feminine power in all forms (and this includes the breakdown of gender stereotypes that limit anyone’s self-expression or gender identity) is one of the hallmarks of our current age. It’s a gestalt, a theme of our times. Never has it been more important that the old ways of thinking about male and female power, and about gender overall, fall away. Never has it been more important for individuals of both genders to break through cultural conditioning, religious and social limitations, and own their full power. On some level, the struggles related to this are part of every conflict going on in the world today (think about each one, and see if you agree.)

So owning your power is not a small thing. It’s also not an egotistical thing, because it’s about much more than just you. What then, are the ways we as women block our own power?

If we look at both history and the current cultural portrayals of women, it’s easy to see we have a real ‘bitch or witch’ problem. Women with communication styles or opinions that are deemed too aggressive or angry are often labeled bitchy. Women who explore religious beliefs or healing modalities deemed outside of the mainstream are often labeled witchy. Women in this day and age with spiritual proclivities, or who are drawn to energy or intuitive studies (you! I’m talking about you reading a blog called Mommy Mystic!) are prone to fear both.

Throughout much of history, either label could have gotten you killed (and in parts of the world, this is still true today.) Not just disliked or ostracized, but killed – hung, burned at the stake, stoned, drowned, thrown to the lions. We are all impacted by the cultural residue of that history, by ancestral memory, and, if you believe in past lives, by those as well. As I explored in my post on neuroplasticity and epigenetics, traumatic historical events may even impact genetic expression. Is it any wonder then that exploring your power in this day and age – particularly spiritual or occult power – can feel dangerous? That it feels safer to toe the line, do what’s expected of you, stick to mainstream beliefs, blend in, cover your light?

Really coming to own your power, and to feel comfortable expressing and manifesting it in the world, is a part of most contemporary women’s personal growth trajectory. It is an underlying theme of almost all my private session women energetic’s work. And through that work I have also come to believe that in particular there is a karmic return occurring amongst women interested in spiritual and healing themes (again, I’m talking about you, reading this blog!) – a mass surfacing and clearing of energies and patterns directly linked to witch hunts in Europe and the colonies during the 12th through 18th centuries (and actually in many other lesser known cultures and countries as well, throughout history – it’s a recurring theme.) I don’t mean that every women who is working through power issues was persecuted as a witch in a past life (although sometimes this is the case.) But I do feel that the karmas, in the form of fears, that were generated energetically at that time and that became a part of our cultural psyche, are now rising to the surface to be seen, healed, released, and transformed. This clearing is an important part of the rise of feminine power, and the rebalancing of masculine and feminine energies, that is occurring right now, and that is so central to the positive evolution of our world.

To begin to work with these energies yourself, first think about your own childhood conditioning around power. What were girls allowed to express or not express as compared to boys? How were you expected to voice your opinions (if you were encouraged to?) What messages did you receive about anger? Did you develop habits of people-pleasing and not rocking the boat in order to calm things around you? What role did women play (or not) in the religion you were raised in? What value was intuition or the unseen given?

Of course a lot of your answers at this level have nothing to do with past life, or even present day, persecution. But they do help surface the underlying beliefs about feminine and spiritual power that may be influencing your own ability to own your power.

One emotional pattern that can be linked to this fear is engaging in people-pleasing to such an extent that you alter your personality to fit what you think others’ want you to be. There’s nothing wrong with trying to get along with people, and we all adapt our personas according to roles and relationships, and to make people comfortable. But when it crosses the line, energetically it becomes something else – we aren’t drawing any power from the core of our being, the seat of our authenticity, and emanating it out. All our energy is being directed into our surface persona, in trying to fit in and thus ‘be safe’, so our power cannot flow naturally and unimpeded. Instead we are left drained from the effort of interacting. Ultimately, it is actually more draining to stay small in this way than to let our power flow, because when our power flows naturally it is just energy coming forth from our inner being. From an energetics perspective, we become a conduit for this power, as it flows from the inner doorway of our chakras.

Another emotional pattern that can arise from fears of being labeled ‘bitch or witch’ is a debilitating fear of conflict and our own anger – shying away from them to the point where we cannot stick up for ourselves or others in the face of injustice. Keeping things calm and unthreatening becomes our first priority, to our own detriment. Often this backfires, as we repress anger to such an extent that it erupts erratically and destructively.

Here are some other ways that these fears may manifest as blocks to owning your own (spiritual) power:

  • Keeping your spiritual/alternative interests hidden to such a degree that you divide your life, making yourself into 2 people.
  • Feeling as if there is no one in your life to which you express your authentic self, or can be yourself.
  • Not being able to take your healing or intuitive abilities to another level, or to speak about them in front of people.
  • Special fears around speaking in front of others about any topic, or about being in front of people, the center of their focus, for any reason.
  • Paranoia or hyper-sensitivity about being betrayed, to the point that you see betrayal even in every day disagreements with friends or partners.
  • A deep sense of being ‘bad’ – a sense that you have done something ‘wrong’ – an ‘original sin’ feeling.
  • Deep-seated isolation and/or inability to trust anyone.

Of course many other experiences or conditioning factors can contribute to these kinds of emotional patterns. I am not trying to say that feeling any of these is a sign you were burnt at the stake as a witch in a past life. I mentioned the possibility of karmic roots only as a way of indicating how deep-seated many of these patterns are in our energy beings and psyches. Knowing your karmic history is not that important to your healing and empowerment, and in fact sometimes can even serve as a distraction. What is relevant is contemplating how these patterns might be present and functioning within you, and how they might be preventing you from owning your power.

Because being powerful is a good thing! It is not bad – power is not inherently good or bad. How you choose to use your power is what determines your impact on the world. This is true of all kinds of power – personal, social, political, occult (all of which are reflections of your personal power, your energetic power.) Holding back on owning yours, and on using it, hurts yourself and everyone who might otherwise benefit from what you have to offer the world. The world needs you now more than ever at  your most powerful, radiant, loving, and wise.

So this Solstice may your power – the power of light, of love, of peace – flow through you unhindered. May you own and express it fearlessly in 2016, becoming the light in the world you are meant to be!

And I do hope you’ll join me for the Solstice teleseminar, and after that for my annual New Year’s book giveaway here in my final post of the year.

 

 

Bouncing Forward: Transforming Bad Breaks into Breakthroughs

October 9, 2015

BouncingForwardI haven’t been able to focus as much recently on sharing books here as I have in the past, but I wanted to share Bouncing Forward: Transforming Bad Breaks into Breakthroughs from Dr. Michaela Haas, because I feel it is such an empowering book – for everyone, but particularly for trauma survivors, and that includes sexual trauma survivors, of which I know I have many who read this blog. Bouncing Forward is focused on the idea of post-traumatic growth – the ways in which it is actually possible for individuals to grow and develop in positive ways in the aftermath of trauma, not just ‘survive.’ A growing body of research is focused on what conditions help to make this possible, and how we might support ourselves and others in doing so.

The book takes its title from Maya Angelou, who when asked how she rose above the many hardships of her life – including being raped at the age of 8 – described her journey as “bouncing forward, going beyond what the naysayers said.” Ms. Angelou is one of many inspiring and fascinating individuals interviewed in the book, which also features jazz legend and Auschwitz survivor Coco Schumann, Brigadier General and first Iraq war prisoner Rhonda Cornum, animal behaviorist and autistic author Temple Grandin, co-founder of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) Cindi Lamb, and several more.

These interviews are organized in such a way as to each highlight a particular trait or practice which has been shown in studies to contribute to post-traumatic growth. According to Dr. Richard Tedeschi, a psychologist focused on this field, many trauma survivors report growth in one or more of five key areas –  personal strength, deeper relationships with others, new perspectives on life, appreciation for life, and spirituality. In addition to highlighting Dr. Tedeschi’s research and the interviews with survivors, Dr. Haas covers the work of other researchers focused on trauma, shares her own personal story of trauma and growth, and includes tools for building resilience within one’s own life. This makes the book a unique blend of social research, biography, memoir, and personal development guide, and for this reason I think it will be helpful and interesting to almost anyone – especially since almost all of us will experience trauma at some point in our lives, or will know someone who does.

When I first  heard of the concept of post-traumatic growth I worried it was yet another way to make trauma survivors feel guilty for their pain, or to push them to ‘move on already.’ This is a message that sexual trauma survivors in particular often receive, in addition to the messages of “it’s your fault” and “stay silent.” Often survivors will stay silent for years, sharing their trauma with no one, while it eats away inside them contributing to emotional and physical problems. But Dr. Haas makes it clear that repression or forced positivity is not at all what post-traumatic growth is about, saying “Before we can overcome suffering, we need to go through it” and:

“When someone is drowning, they need a lifeline, not a swimming lesson. There are traumatic events where the mere suggestion that growth can result from it may seem naive or insulting. Often, time needs to pass before a survivor is open to the idea…But at some point, the survivor might feel the urge to learn to swim through the grief, and then these strategies become very helpful.”

She points out that in the West we compartmentalize suffering, designating it to hospitals, hospices and homeless shelters. This creates an environment in which we are so uncomfortable with both our own and others’ suffering that we do not know how to meet it when it arises. But it is of course always around us, “already here”, as she puts it. If this view sounds Buddhist that’s because the Buddhist approach to suffering does share many similarities to findings about resilience and post-traumatic growth. As a practicing Tibetan Buddhist, Dr. Haas highlights some of these similarities, and uses examples from her own meditation practice to describe how practices such as meditation can help someone move into a new relationship with suffering.

One of the main messages that shines through all of the interviews and the research featured in Bouncing Forward is how important it is for a trauma survivor to feel support and hope that happiness is possible again. While our increased understanding of PTSD and its treatments has been vital to helping many survivors through their ordeal, the focus on PTSD as the only possible outcome of trauma provides survivors a limited view of how their lives might unfold in the aftermath. It’s important to look at the whole picture:

“Depending on the circumstances, Dr. Tedeschi estimates that as many as 30 to 70 – in some instances even up to 90 – percent of survivors generally experience at least one aspect of postraumatic growth…Contrary to popular opinion, experiencing growth after trauma is far more common than PTSD. It is vital to look closely: while most people will suffer from posttraumatic stress in the aftermath of trauma, few will develop full-blown PTSD, and even of those, most will heal with therapy and time.”

This information is not meant to diminish the very real suffering of PTSD, but instead to empower individuals with the knowledge that moving beyond it is possible, that the ability to do so can be developed over time through specific methods, and that they may not only survive but thrive – as the individuals featured within this book are a testament too. It’s a message of hope, but of hope grounded in social research, personal stories, and backed up with specific suggestions for how to enable such growth.

In later chapters the book moves into a larger look at resilience, and the importance of focusing not only on suffering and helping people through the worst of it, but also on the human capacity for growth and change. Ann Masten, a researcher at the University of Minnesota focused on childhood abuse and its impact, puts it this way:

“We focused on the gloomy for such a long time. It really bothers me that when people hear about the evidence for trauma, child abuse, and in utero exposure to alcohol, they assume, ‘Oh, I must be totally damaged.’ People pick up on this idea, but there are many opportunities for reprogramming in the course of life. Resilience does not mean you don’t have any scars, but I am continuously amazed by the human ability to reinvent ourselves.”

In the Epilogue to Bouncing Forward, Dr. Haas features “Five Exercises for Cultivating Courage in the Face of Adversity”, which includes meditation. She offers simple instructions and research to back up the claims of each methods’ benefits.

Overall, I found this book both inspiring and informative, and if you are a trauma survivor, I think you will too. You can find it at Amazon here.

Namaste-

P.S. Dr. Haas is also the author of Dakini Power: Twelve Extraordinary Women Shaping the Transmission of Tibetan Buddhism in the West, which I also featured here, and which is another favorite of mine. If you are interested in Tibetan Buddhism, and/or women’s spiritual biographies, it’s a must read!

 

Chakra Levels Part IV – Doorways of Light

September 26, 2015

DoorwayofLightYou, yourself, are the eternal energy which appears as this Universe. You didn’t come into this world; you came out of it. Like a wave from the ocean.
Alan Watts

We’ve come to the final post in this Chakra Levels series; if you missed the prior posts they are  listed at the bottom of this post, and also on the Chakras page.

This innermost, core level of the chakras is really what chakra work is all about – this is where the light springs forth from. At the center of every chakra is a direct doorway to Source light, and when these doorways are open, this light flows through us as divine expressions of our highest aspects – pure love, compassion, wisdom, creativity, vision, power, and connectedness. Bringing forth this light is the essence of every spiritual practice aligned with spiritual awakening, whether the chakras are actually utilized or not. This light is our true nature, and as we attune our mind, physical bodies, and subtle bodies to its vibration, we transform from the inside into beings of pure light and awareness.

In most cases, when someone talks about opening or aligning the chakras, they are referring to one or both of the first two levels – the physical or psychological levels. Working at the first level involves aligning our physical vibration with chakra vibrations using our senses – sight, sounds, foods etc. aligned with each chakra. Working at the second level involves clearing and working through our limiting emotional patterns – the subtle body blocks that distort the light as it comes through us.

Working at the core third level is an entirely different approach – we seek to pull the light through us by going directly to each doorway and throwing it open. As the light makes its way through our subtle body, we are changed – our physical and psychological blocks are washed away like debris in a flood. Sometimes this is a beautiful release. Sometimes it is a little more complicated, as we aren’t quite ready to let go of certain parts of ourselves, or encounter other forms of inner resistance. But either way, it’s tremendously powerful!

Work at this inner level is explicitly spiritual. While working at the first chakra level is really a form of energy healing, and working at the second level is about personal/psychological growth, this third level is about enlightenment. Of course, someone might work on all three levels, and in fact, in spiritual traditions in which chakra meditation is integral, they usually are. Working on only this third level can lead to disassociation or escapist tendencies, as the blisses released when this inner doorway of the chakras is open can be very captivating. It’s possible to get addicted to these blisses, and avoid the physical and psychological healing and growth required to truly awaken. Working holistically on all three levels is a way of assuring balanced growth towards true liberation.

The most well-known spiritual traditions that incorporate this type of work are kundalini-based, and include meditations, exercises, and transmissions specifically designed to awaken the kundalini. What the kundalini essentially does is throw open each chakra’s doorway. While this is usually described as a linear process – one chakra at a time from bottom to top – that’s really just a theoretical model. In fact, any chakra may be opened at any time, and each chakra has different levels of opening too, so we often spiral back and forth throughout our lifetimes between chakras, working intensely on the themes and vibrations of one, and then on another. The kundalini and our daily lives interact in a beautiful dance; the choices we make influence where the kundalini moves to – where we are open and where we need to unblock – and visa versa.

Although not all spiritual traditions explicitly involve chakra or kundalini work, the mystic arms of most include practices that throw open our subtle body doorways in some way. Whether it’s Sufi whirling, Hindu mantra recitations, Buddhist mandala visualizations, Christian chanting or Jewish Hitbodedut meditation, the emphasis is on shifts in awareness and states of being. Practitioners describe whole body experiences of waves of light, love, power and more. The common theme is the feeling of a greater power coming through, not from, oneself. While I would never want to conflate all religions, even the mystic arms, it’s clear that there is a core process of energetic transformation that mystics across all religions have undergone. How experiences are processed and interpreted in the mind may be quite different, but in the subtle body, a lot of the process is the same.

However, different traditions do emphasize distinct energies and divine aspects, seeking to bring forth one or more which they consider the core of the spiritual journey. If we were to look at these aspects from a chakra perspective, we can map them to each of the seven traditional chakras along these lines:

Crown/7th – Union, Surrender

Third Eye/6th – Pure Vision, Imagination

Throat/5th – Divine Expression, Sacred Communication

Heart/4th – Unconditional Love, Compassion

Navel/3rd – Service to Others, Divine Power

Sacral/2nd – Inspiration, Sacred Passion

Root/1st – Connection to Nature, Elemental Energies

Most spiritual practices and rituals are designed to immerse us in one or more of these energies/states, and through that immersion to awaken the felt-sense of them within us. That felt sense is the associated chakra door opening, and releasing this vibration into us directly from Source. This may happen in little releases, or in giant bursts – epiphanies or ecstatic experiences. The pacing is individual, and doesn’t matter all that much. In the eyes of the universe we have all the time in the world to realize who we really are. Or you could also say, it’s already done! So how it unfolds on this relative plane of our life and practice is somewhat mysterious, and part of the beautiful play of existence.

Working at this level is very personal, it is about your personal relationship with spirit/the universe/Source/God/enlightenment/Tao – whatever word you choose to use. As these doorways open within you, you come to know yourself as pure light, love, power and  more. While working at the middle, psychological level is also personal, it is on the ego level – our personality, emotional patterns, and mental habits. At this inner level we truly experience ourselves as a conduit for something larger, and as this happens, we realize this is true of everyone else as well. We are all beings of light. Five minutes of truly experiencing this can transform you faster than years of working through your issues.

As for ways of calling forth this level, it is not something that can be described in a blog post, or put into a recorded meditation, although reading or hearing something at the right moment may trigger an opening within you. As I mentioned above, the mystic spiritual practices of every religion that I know of contain some methods for opening these doors. And contact with a teacher or guide who has themselves brought this forth will help you to do so too. But there is also an element of grace, of surprise, and we simply have to make ourselves open to these moments, and not let them pass us by when they arise. Pay attention! When you feel in the presence of the divine, embrace it, and take a moment to truly feel how this arises from within you, how it is your very core, even if it seems as if it has come from outside you.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this Chakra Series, and that it enriches your own path of healing, empowerment, and awakening in some way. May it contribute to the unfoldment of light within you! Below I’ve included links to the other articles in this series, as well as to the Chakras and Women’s Energetics Resources pages:

Introduction to Chakra Levels

First Level – Working with Our Senses

Second Level – Emotions and Psyche

Third Level – Doorways of Light

All Chakra Articles (including links to Kundalini series)

Women’s Energetics Articles (including articles on Kundalini and phases of life)

Chakra Levels Part 3 – Emotions and Psyche

September 4, 2015
The second level of chakra is about working with inner blocks and gifts, which we experience as emotions and states of awareness.

The second level of chakras is about working with inner blocks and gifts, which we experience as emotions and states of awareness.

This is the third post in a series on working with the Chakra Levels. The first post was Introduction to Chakra Levels  and the second post was  Part 2: Working with the Chakras and Our Senses .

Our emotions are one of our most powerful doorways into our subtle body, and to working with it on the second level of the model I’m using – what I’m calling the psychological or mind level. By ‘mind’ I don’t mean only our thoughts, but our entire field of awareness, including our emotions, thoughts, physical sensations, and subtle senses. This level really encompasses the full spectrum of our awareness, from our darkest moments to our highest. Most of the time we live somewhere in between,  swinging between the emotions and thoughts triggered by our everyday lives. Working at this second level of the chakras involves engaging with our thoughts and emotions in a new way – as a link to our subtle body.

While both emotions and thoughts are energy, for most of us it’s easiest to connect with our emotions as energy. To experience this for yourself, try the following 2 simple visualizations:

  • Close your eyes and remember the last time you were frustrated or angry. Replay just enough of the scenario to re-trigger the felt sense of that emotion – don’t go into the entire scenario. Where do you feel this frustration or anger in your body? How would you describe it as an energy?
  • Now let go of that visual and imagine a person or being you have great affection for right in front of you, at arm’s length. This might be a family member, child, friend or pet. Imagine you would like to hug this person to you, to your chest, in a wave of affection and warmth. Where do you feel this affection in your body? How would you describe it as an energy?

Most of us will have a strong felt sense of where these emotions are ‘located’ in our bodies, and the energies we experience in each visualization will be very different from each other. But where are they located really? If you begin to focus in more deeply on either of these energies, you will find they don’t exactly feel in your physical body, in the sense of being precisely located in a muscle or organ, although we use our physical anatomy as a reference point. You might say our physical body is the vehicle through which we experience these energies, but they are not exactly physical energies.

This somatic or felt-sense of emotion as energy is such a powerful thing! It provides us a bridge for moving between the first and second levels of our subtle body – from the physical to the psychological. For this reason, locating emotions in our body is the starting point for many somatically based therapy forms, healing techniques, and shamanic methods. When we are working with difficult emotions and emotional patterns – our wounds, fears, insecurities, and angers – feeling them in our body provides a link to the deeper obscurations in our subtle body. This is important because then we can work with the underlaying patterns, as opposed to individual arising emotions. Our subtle body is like a map of our subconscious – every pattern that generates difficult emotions and obscures our true nature of love, light, and happiness is reflected there.

Light refracts through your subtle body as awareness; obscurations on your crystal (psyche) block your natural light, love, and happiness.

Light refracts through your subtle body as awareness; obscurations on your crystal (psyche) block your natural light, love, and happiness.

Think back to the prism metaphor from the first article in this series: Pure Source light shines in the back of the prism, and is refracted out the front as a beautiful rainbow of colors. But if any side of the prism is dirty, the color refracted from that side will be dimmed. Emotional patterns of fear, anger, unworthiness, shame, etc. are written in our psyche and our subtle body and block our expression of our natural enlightenment. We can work on clearing these through either traditional psychological means such as therapy, or through energy work (linked to the chakras or other modalities), or even better – through both!

Every chakra is associated with certain emotional and mental states, and these mappings serve as the starting point for working with our chakras to clear these obscurations. Although we rarely feel anything that is sourced from just one chakra, this map provides a good way of understanding the base energies involved, from which all our states form:

Chakra Psyche Area Obscured States Clear States
1st/Root Physical Body, Psyche Foundation Fearful
Insecure
Spacey
Disassociated
Alone
Shaky
Fatigued
Safe
Secure
Grounded
Connected
Supported
Resilient
Vital/Energized
2nd/Sacral Emotional Body, Sexuality Stuck
Dull
Numb
Rigid
Distant
Resistant
Shrunken
Ashamed
Creative
Passionate
Sensual
Intimate
Fluid
Adaptable
Radiant
Accepting
3rd/Navel Mental Structures, Sense of Self, Personal Power Passive
Timid
Disorganized
Procrastinating
Scattered
Uncertain
Controlling
Susceptible
Assertive
Courageous
Organized
Executing
Centered
Confidant
In the flow
Protected
4th/Heart Relationships, Connection to Source Resentful/Angry
Judgmental
Closed/Walled
Jealous
Possessive
Isolated/Cold
Tumultuous
Off balance
Compassionate
Accepting
Open/Vulnerable
Grateful
Giving
Warm/Loving
Peaceful
Balanced
5th/Throat Communication, Presentation of Self Disingenous
Hiding
People Pleasing
Dishonest
Muddled
Reserved
Scripted
Authentic
Presenting
Self-Aware
Honest
Clear
Expressive
Spontaneous
6th/Third Eye Subtle Senses/Mind, Vision Busy Mind
Thought-based
Confused
Dull
Feel Separate
Solid
Bound
Confined
Still Mind
Intuitive
Clear
Insightful
Feel United
Light/Boundless
Timeless
Imaginative
7th/Crown Connection to Spirit, Purpose/Meaning Personality-based
Separate from
God/Light/Source
Doubt-ridden
Blocked
Small
Aimless
Hopeless
Depressed
Spirit-based
Merged/United with
God/Light/Source
Faith-filled
Inspired
Vast
Purposeful
Meaning-filled
Uplifted

Chakra-based energy work (whether you call it energy psychology or energy healing or something else) is really very simple – you are trying to bring forth more of the clear states and let go of the obscurations. You work this from both directions – on the one hand, you work to clear your obscurations through release work, energy line cutting or clearing work, or methods that help you inquire into your emotional patterns and release them. On the other hand, you try to experience more of the clear, empowered states through meditations and other methods designed to specifically cultivate them.

It’s very important to work from both angles. If you only focus on your obscurations – your issues – you get buried in them. You may become unable to feel anything else – the door closes to feeling the enlightened expression that can come through. On the other hand, if you only focus on feeling the clear states, you can fall prey to spiritual bypassing – your chakra and spiritual work simply becomes a way of bolstering your ego, experiencing pleasure, and avoiding pain, rather than growing and transforming.

A very simple way to begin to work with any obscuration is simply to tune into how a difficult emotion feels in your body, and to describe it to yourself. When you are angry, see if you can take a time out and locate exactly where you feel it in your body. Explore the edges of this energy with your awareness. Then try to describe for yourself how that energy feels – is it small, large, ephemeral, dense, warm, cold? Over time, even this simple approach will actually start to loosen the hold these emotions have over you – the light of your self-awareness begins to dissolve the obscuration. This is why focusing in this way (or something similar) is the starting point for so many mind-body emotional healing techniques, including Somatic Experiencing, Mindful Healing, tapping approaches like Emotional Freedom Technique, and one I use myself, Feeding Your Demons.

A simple way to begin to empower your ability to feel the clear or enlightened expression of any chakra energy is through affirmations in which you really strive to feel the state and vibration you are affirming. It is not enough to simply say ‘I am grounded’ or ‘I am loving’ – to really open up your subtle body, you need to cultivate the felt-sense of that emotion or state. You can do this through visualizations that trigger it (as in the simple example above) or any method that really creates a felt-sense (the chakra meditations  I feature online are all geared around this.)

For all of you law of attraction fans, a felt-sense is really the heart of affirmations from a manifestation perspective – it’s not the words. You need to feel and experience the vibration of a state (joy, love, security) to attract more of it into your life. This is why solely focusing on your blocks can backfire (although again, not focusing on your obscurtions at all can lead to problematic states of denial and repression.)

So explore and experiment! What are your obscurations – the energies and emotional patterns that block you? What chakras are they associated with? Can you feel them in your subtle body? Can you bring the light of your awareness to them? Then what are your gifts – the clear states that you most easily feel? What chakras are they associated with? Can you cultivate more of these feelings and attract from them?

The awakening process is one of vibrationally transforming ourselves moment by moment in this way. Every moment you are reflecting a certain combination of energies, a reflection of your emotional and mental patterns – the state of your own prism, your subtle body. And the good news is, you can change it! Moment by moment you can clean your prism and become a clear and unique expression of light in the world.

Next post I’ll talk more about this process and working with the inner third layer of the chakras – the direct doorway to the Source of this light.

Namaste-

Other posts in this series:

Introduction to Chakra Levels

First Level – Working with Our Senses

Third Level – Doorways of Light

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