FAQ for Healing the Subtle Body Wounds of Sexual Trauma E-book
Before moving on to new topics, I decided to post answers to the most common questions I have received regarding the Healing the Subtle Body Wounds of Sexual Abuse and Trauma Ebook. Most of these were received by email. I know that due to the subject matter, many women are reluctant to pose questions in comment form on the post itself, but please feel free to do so anonymously. That way, your questions and the responses might benefit others – part of the trauma of sexual abuse is the silence that surrounds it. Sharing is a way of breaking that wall. That being said, I am always happy to receive questions by email at LaMeditation [at] earthlink [dot] net. I will add to this FAQ over time based on the questions I receive.
One general note I wanted to add is that I deliberately kept the E-book brief and focused on describing the exercises, rather than offering a lot of background or explanation. This is so there would be space for each person to personalize the process. It is designed for you to connect to it at whatever level, and in whatever way, feels best for you.
As always, thanks to all of you that have engaged in and shared this process. It is an honor to have contributed to your healing journey in this way.
1. How was the process developed?
I have been working with women’s energetics for the last 10 years – chakra mappings and energy exercises developed specifically for women based on spiritual and healing traditions, most particularly Tantric Buddhism and kundalini meditation. Over the years, many of the women who attended classes or emailed me had suffered some sort of sexual trauma – rape, incest, or other forms of sexual abuse. Others had been victims of intense sexual harassment at some point in their lives. Still others had not necessarily suffered explicit abuse or harassment that they could remember, but reported having extreme difficulty accessing their second chakra energy.
I began to realize that for many women, healing these wounds, and helping them connect to their sacral chakras, was essential to their spiritual journey, and so began researching and developing exercises specifically for that. The exercises in this process grew from there. However, this exact 10-day program was really empowered by a meditation experience I had earlier this year, involving Yeshe Tsogyal and Green Tara. I felt that they instructed me to formalize this particular set of exercises into this exact sequence, length, and format. I felt they actually guided me through the entire writing process, and when I had questions, that they helped me to resolve them. At the time I was also involved in an energy healing and intuitive development apprenticeship program, and the techniques I was learning in that program also influenced the process.
So overall, like much work of this type, it was a culmination of research and work over time, and divine inspiration/instruction.
2. I have no background in the chakras or energy work; can I engage in this process?
Absolutely, yes. The process is designed for anyone to benefit, and the exercises are all fully described. The audio files will help with this, although at the time of this writing they are a bit staticky – a problem that should be resolved soon (someone is helping me edit them, and if that doesn’t work, I will re-record them.)
Really this process is designed to trigger your own self-healing abilities. Follow along as best that you can, and the process will unfold for you as it should. Trust is a big part of this process, so trust yourself and your ability to engage in this. Don’t worry too much about how much you are ‘getting’ intellectually – our subtle bodies operate on another level from our mind. By focusing your intent to heal, you will benefit.
3. I have never meditated, and my mind wanders throughout each exercise – will I benefit?
Absolutely, yes. Even the minds of experienced meditators wander quite a bit! Perfect focus is not required. Just do your best, and relax. Trust that something larger is unfolding within you, and be proud that you have triggered it within yourself.
4. I am Christian [or I am Jewish or I am Pagan or I am Atheist - substitute any belief system] – is this program spiritually compatible?
I cannot answer this for you, but my opinion is yes. I believe that our energy body or subtle body – the level of our being that this program focuses on – has nothing to do with a particular spiritual belief system (or lack thereof.) I believe it is as ‘real’ and perceivable as our physical body. Virtually every culture that has evolved on this planet has at some point developed an energy body mapping of some type, as part of either a healing or spiritual tradition.
I have tried to make the material as ecumenical as possible. If you would like to ‘spiritualize’ it for yourself, please do so! You can add prayers, readings, affirmations, or other spiritual practices to your Daily Initiation Practice, and at any point in the process. Personalizing it in this way can only add value and relevance for yourself. This is YOUR healing, and YOUR process; in some ways I have just provided a framework.
5. I have not suffered any sexual abuse, is this program relevant?
Yes. The social climate and conditioning that most of us, especially women, experience growing up often results in a sense of shame and/or repression when it comes to our sacral chakra and sexual energy. This process can help you clear any residual blocked energy related to your sacral chakra, and to connect with it as the center of your energetic and spiritual self.
6. I am a man that suffered sexual abuse as a child, is this program relevant?
Yes, for the most part, although it was designed for women, based on women’s energetics. Certainly you will benefit, although I would love for someone to do one specifically designed for men (and if no one does, perhaps I will be called to do so some day.) Days 1-7 are very adaptable for men. Days 8-10 are a little different, because they are specifically focused on the 2nd chakra, and this chakra does function differently in men and women (just as our sexual and reproductive organs – the 2nd chakra’s physical counterpart – do). However, even these are easily adapted. I can respond in more detail by email if you are interested, but feel free to use your intuition to do what feels right.
7. I have not had formal therapy, and feel drawn to this program, but you warn that it is not meant to be a replacement for therapy – should I do the program?
Energy work and emotional work (the “2 E’s”) work best hand-in-hand. The entire premise of mind/body medicine, of which energy work is a part, is that the mind (and emotions) and body (and subtle body) are connected. This is the main reason that I emphasize the importance of engaging in counseling or therapy for any sexual abuse you have suffered. There are often so many issues and patterns related to shame, trust, fear, anger and more that need to be worked through. Yes, it is possible to do this without formal counseling, but it is also possible to fool yourself into thinking you have worked through something when you do not have an external guide. And there are many programs available, including free ones through universities, clinics, and women’s organizations (please do an internet search on these – I have opted not to link to any because I can’t personally endorse one approach over any other.) As in all things, trust yourself regarding selecting a counselor and counseling approach. That being said, if you truly feel drawn to this process, my own opinion is that you should trust that. Perhaps it will inspire you to engage in other work to continue your healing journey.
8. Although I have gone to counseling, I am still afraid I won’t be able to handle this process; I am afraid of the feelings it might bring up – what advice do you have?
Remember that you are in control of this process. You can engage with it at whatever level feels comfortable. You can quit at any time. You can even take it slower than 10 days, doing the practices every other day if you like. YOU are in control.
This is perhaps the most important thing to remember, especially for victims of sexual abuse, since you experienced disempowerment on such a basic level. This process is entirely within your power. It is ABOUT your power – about triggering your own natural self-healing abilities. It is something you are choosing to do, for yourself, by yourself. Or not – if it doesn’t feel right for you at this time, there is no reason to force yourself. Maybe it will at some point in the future, or maybe it is just not the right healing practice for you. Trust yourself.
9. I don’t like using the audio files, but if I use the written materials I keep having to look down at the instructions throughout the meditations; is this OK?
Yes, this is fine, although you may want to try reading through an exercise and then doing it from memory – many of them are brief enough to do this. However, it’s not a problem for you to glance back and forth from the E-book.
10. What should I expect to experience as I undergo this process?
It is highly individual. Some people find it very technical and unemotional – they find they are so focused on the exercises that it is not really an emotional process for them. Others find that the process is emotional, and they allow space to center themselves after each day’s exercise. Some report not experiencing anything during the exercises, but then experiencing profound insights or breakthroughs at other times of the day. Some feel dramatically transformed as the process ends, or have dramatic spiritual experiences during it. Others experience nothing like this, but a few months later realize that a quiet shift has occurred.
Healing is an ongoing journey that unfolds in different ways, and at a different pace, for each person. There is no right or wrong way, or typical or atypical way. This process is just one part of your healing journey, and your overall journey as a human being. I think the best advice I can give is to try not to have any specific expectations, and not to judge yourself or your reactions. I also would advise not giving up partway through the program solely because you don’t feel any immediate benefit (although of course you may quit at any time if you are uncomfortable or just feel it isn’t right for you.) Try and let this be a process of discovery, and be fascinated with how you respond – you will learn something about yourself. And remember that you are triggering a process that unfolds over time.
11. What if I have to miss a day, or several? Or decide to quit?
No problem, do what feels right. And don’t judge yourself or feel guilty – two things we women are prone to! Just let it go, and trust it was meant to be. Feel free to try again another time if that feels right.
12. What is the end goal?
Joy and empowerment. Our sacral chakra is connected to our ability to feel and live from joy. And in women in particular, it is also central to our personal power, and manifesting in our lives from a place of empowerment. Of course moving towards these things is a process, and you may not wake up on Day 11 feeling drastically different (although you may – the universe is a magical place.)
13. Can I do it more than once? Can I use the exercises outside of this program?
Yes and yes. Feel free to try the process as many times as you would like. And all of the meditations and exercises can be done individually outside of this program. However, it is the sequence and combination of them here that provides a specific empowerment for self-healing the wounds of sexual trauma. It is larger than the sum of its parts.
Feel free to post more questions, suggestions, or feedback in the comments. Namaste-